Some background info:

I am in a foreign country. English is not her native language and I don't speak the local language. Her English is very average. Either I have to speak to her in her language like a 5 year old or she speaks to me her average English. I don't see it as a major obstacle as I've banged a chick before with literally no verbal communication, but to her it might be a problem. I am not trying to fuck this girl, I'd like to date her.

We met several months ago on okcupid. Felt like she was out of my league, which she is. We hung out just a couple times which was nice. She had a fun time, met some of my friends. I could tell things were progressing slow, like really slow. My last night in the city we went out to a club, we were dancing and I went in for the kiss and she pulled back. I said something like, "What, you don't like kissing?" and went in again and we began kissing, no tongue, just lips. We did this on and off the rest of the night. Grabbed her tits for all of a few seconds before she pulled my hand away. I could tell she just did not to advance physically. It was creepy.

I left for 3 months and we would text only occasionally which is m.o. because I had other business to take care of. I say we texted 4 or 5 times and she initiated a convo twice.

I've been back in the city for a week. The other day we went for a long walk through the city. Today I took her out for dinner and drinks. We didn't kiss. I tried kino, but she didn't seem to receptive about it. Not that she hated it, but she had no response and I didn't want to force kino given the way were positioned. I had my arm around her, tap her inner thigh when I had something exciting to say when we were sitting down.

I brought up to her family and what they thought about her talking to an American guy which she says they don't know (was a joke anyways, didn't expect her to tell her family). She tells me that she hasn't had a boyfriend in a "long time". I pressed for an exact amount, but I couldn't get a straight answer.

I suppose it makes sense since she was awkward kisser, wasn't receptive to kino and all that. She just didn't seem to know how to react to someone who was interested in her in a sexual way, which is strange because this girl is smoking hot. The other conclusion I had was that she is maybe a lesbian. Her culture is vehemently against homosexuality, but then I don't know why she would be on okcupid looking for dudes.

Anyways, I escort her to the metro and she turns her head for me to kiss her on the cheek, and she kisses mine which was a bit more prolonged than your usual parting and the look on her face seemed like she wanted more but was unsure.

So how do I broach this? A girl with no experience in this matter. I don't want to scare her off. I've made enough inferences that I am interested in dating her that if I feel like if I blatantly came out and said it she would be so scared because she has no experience. I know I should probably take it slow, but how exactly should I go about this? It does seem like she has interest as she changed her plans to meet me tonight.

Our texting is pretty minimal, so perhaps I should work on that, but what should be the context of the discussion since I don't want to scare her off. Is it about finding a balance?

I see you're doing your part to make this a better community. Can you provide any help or do you have any more snarky comments?

I'd hardly consider that snarky. What you're telling us is ridiculous... It's the white knight thing and nobody really believes it, dude.

If you'd like to be the guy she talks to with the smell of someone else's cock on her breath, you have the correct mindset... You can be her last option while other guys game her correctly...

As others may have already pointed out, there isn't much further into this text that this has to go beyond this comment. As far as mindsets go at least; and it is your mindset that will drive every interaction you have with her. So if that is it; you'll be playing "catch up" the entire time.

What is it that women want?

They want to be "Desired", they want to be "WANTED" and us and men want to be "needed". And you wanting to just "date" her doesn't fall along the lines of making her feel desired. There is an old saying around here that goes " A woman is most likely to sleep with the guy that likely to fuck her and never talk to her again". The guy that just wants her, not the guy that needs to date her. Not the guy that wants her permanently to fulfill something within himself.

Check this link out: viewtopic.php?f=25&t=190620

Women are going to behave the way you treat them. Treat them like innocent little tender things and they "fulfill" your fantasy. Even if it means putting on a facade to do it. Confidently treat them like sexual beings and they'll fulfill your fantasy as well. Its all about what you WANT, what you DESIRE. If what you want is innocent, they'll play innocent(if they like you) even if that means not ever sleeping with you.

You have to decide what it is that you want.

_________________
Need Coaching? For 1 on 1 Coaching via SPAM, Phone or Instant Messenger - Email: EddieFews@Gmail.com

Show Support, Buy The Book: 'The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom - Click Here

http://www.EddieFews.com