At the salsa club of course. It was a bit strange, every once in a while we would be dancing near each other and I did my best not to let her know I saw her but I am sure she was near on purpose. But anyway, I know she was trying to pick up this one dude, because she acted the same way with me. She was just doing stuff that she was doing with me, that I noticed her doing with this other guy.


And as I sat there, watching her while trying to avoid being seen, it became obvious to me, as she seemingly became frustrated, that the guy just wasnt getting it. She was kinda like, leading him towards the door, seeming like maybe she was ready to leave, trying to give him the hint, and he was still stuck in "I have to impress this girl more" mode. I cant talk really, I mean I suppose I didnt get that she was ready to bang me when I took her home like two months ago, although I did pick up on the idea that she was open to me.



And see, that is the point here. I know now, seeing and watching her, that she was trying to pick this dude up. I get an idea of what I myself must have looked like, when shes ready to be taken, and I don't yet realize she is ready. But this is what I really don't understand;


Girls don't HAVE to wait for a guy to "make a move". This girl could have easily taken this guy home, with a line as easy as "wanna come back to my place?" Instead, girls just, "give you the opportunity to make a move". Then when the girl is ready and the guy thinks he still has to perform, women find themselves trapped in this purgatory of waiting for the guy to feel like he can make a move. Why don't girls make the move, or at least make things more obvious? In this day and age of women empowerment, women should feel at liberty to do such things, so why don't they?

You mean the day and age when a few angry dykes are beating their (flat) chests?

Women want to be swept off their feet. That's why they wait for us to make the move. That's why looks, money, anything, doesn't mean a thing, if you can't grab them and say "this is who I am, this is what I want, are you in or not?"

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They do, maybe you just haven't seen it. I find both men and women just don't like being rejected. Being the first person to let the other person know you like them or being the first to try to kiss or make the move to be alone puts a risk to your ego. There is always that chance the other person could turn down the advance and make the person feel like they were unworthy. No one wants to feel that way, this is why a lot of people are hesitant to make the move.

Girls do make things obvious in some cases, they can even make the first move. It is just more effective to put the onus of responsibility on yourself and take the risk, it creates more opportunities for yourself. The more you get into the habit of taking the responsibility off the other person, the less of a blow it is to your ego when someone turns you down. It is hard to form a new habit especially one that is mentally stressful, however developing this habit will benefit you greatly and the stress is worth it in my opinion.

Keep working hard my friend, it will eventually get easier. Good Luck.

Hey ninja,

Nice post there.

Yeah I know what your saying there. It's mostly conditioning why women feel like this. Not all women are like that though. In Spain for example they are a little more forward (sometimes aggressively so).

The thing is many women (and men) are playing roles. It's up to us what roles we ant to play.
The role she want's to play is more submissive - she want's to feel he is making a move on her.
Who know's maybe he did know and was intentionally driving her wild - I don't know I was't there.

Personally I like making the move, I love to be dominant with women, I also love submissive women.

So for me it's not an issue - what was an issue in the past was reading her signal's. Like your awesome - you could see her signal's trying to lead him out the door.

That's so great because now you have an epic edge. If you can read her subtlety - you will get it allot more. I once dated this gorgeous german girl. I could always tell she wanted to kiss me as soon as her eye's started triangulating between each of my eye's and my lips - being able to read that sign meant I got allot more sex within that relationship.

Well done for getting the edge - sharpen it till it cut's through diamonds! Boom.

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They want to... But they can't. Because other guys who she's not sleeping with will judge her for being a slut. It sucks. It would be alot easier for everyone to get laid if guys would quit getting all pissy about another cock was inside of the girl they just slept with at one point...

(Yet it's okay for that guy to fuck as many girls as he wants...)

It's a big double standard dude. It really sucks.

Women fear rejection.

She knows how many guys she's turned down, and couldn't imagine dealing with the same.

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