Yep. Purgatory. For lack of a better term.

Imma try to keep this short, so here goes.
Met this girl about half a year ago through common circles. Found out we live next to each other, so took the opportunity of sharing the same bus or whatever a couple of times to spark some of that attraction.

Got the number, got to texting, got the make-outs, got her to come over to my place. She even cooked for me, her "signature" dish. The one everyone has when they wanna impress. Anyway, I encountered some LMR and didn't have sex although it got intense every time.

And now this has been going out for half a year lol. We go out almost every weekend, just the two of us or sometimes with some friends, but even then we always end up staying out late in a 1on1 situation. It ranges from movies, dinners, drinks, wine in fancy restaurants, or vodka with cranberry juice on the nearby Park overlooking the city.
It really doesn't get more "date-y" than this.

When we are out together we kiss, walk hand in hand, take pics, post them on Facebook, all that. She initiates contact and these dates 80% of the time. And yet each time I suggest we go back to my place for whatever activity she invokes being tired, wanting to go to sleep, etc.

And now here's the kick. We were out a few nights ago, got a bit drunk. We had a trip planned together and she mentioned she "she can't wait to go on this trip with her best friend". I couldn't help myself but burst into laughter.
Her tongue was 4 inches deep in my mouth while my right hand was slammed on in her throat and my right one was almost at the point of fingering her half naked body due to the dress she was wearing and her legs being wrapped around my waist. And she calls me her best friend.
What.the.fuck?

I "know" she has no intention of sleeping with me since she always avoids it, but she's obviously attracted as well. She also isn't a prude or anything like that. We're both early twenties.
So how do I escape Purgatory? Or whatever the hell this is. What is it anyway?
She has no benefit off of me. I don't pay for her drinks or whatever and even if I do, she gets the next two rows. If it comes down to spending she spent quite exponentially more on me than I did on her.

I'd love to provide more details if necessary but right now I gotta run. But please, feel free to comment. I'm not sure what to do. This girl is awesome in general and I wouldn't mind having her as a friend, but I'm firstly a man and I can't ignore my instinct of wanting to fuck the absolute living daylight out of her, leave her spasing on my bed while I enjoy a cocktail and then have her back begging for more. She's hot with a great personality. How can I be friends or Purgatory zoned with that?

I've had this before. The girl was religious though.

This girl, you both know you're not in friendzone. I think she is playing games with you. If I was you, I would turn it around on her, and stop before she wants to kiss and tell her she is in friendzone. Don't try to have sex with her and give her a taste of her own tactics.

Drive her crazy until one day you suddenly ravish her

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Thanks Drag. She is by no means religious.

She says she slept just short of 10 dudes. That's pretty normal.

Good advice tho. Will apply.

Any other thoughts?

How would you feel if you found out she's been seeing other guys?

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Thx for replying my man. Your advice is always gold. What do you mean how i would feel? She can see whoever she wants it ain't like she owes me anything, let alone exclusivity.

Why not just set a date at your place? And yeah as pebble said stop giving her so much. Why would you spend every weekend with a girl your not sleeping with.

Ps you have multiple threads on this girl. Why do you keep ignoring the advice?

That's a good attitude.

As far as fucking her goes, if there's a chance, taking Peb's advice is pretty much the only way to go. 6 months is a long time in which the dynamic of your relationship has been set, so don't expect it to happen overnight.

But it should be no problem. If she's as awesome as you say she is treating her as a friend shouldn't be too difficult. Still flirt of-course, but don't give her much if anything at all. She'll gradually want you more and more.

Best case you get to unleash the beast, worst case you consolidate a friendship with someone you deem cool and later you can decide whether or not you can live with that.

There's nothing wrong with being friends with a quality woman as long as you're not doing it in complacency , like a scrap dog hanging around the dinner table hoping some food might fall his way.
Basically, if you aren't emotionally attached to her and it's not affecting you in a negative way, feel free to enjoy.

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