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PostPosted: Thu Aug 06, 2015 9:04 pm 
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Here's the drill:

Last year I asked a girl out while I was in our college town. We went for coffee, things were great, however she brought up her boyfriend eventually and I couldn't do anything about it. Sounds fair enough, I thanks her for the date and take her home, after which I go to my place. Fast forward a couple of months(we still occasionally chat) and she tells me she broke up with her boyfriend. Then, a couple weeks later, after I do the commute with her in my car, she asks me out for some KFC. I agree, but eventually she starts talking about her ex, how she ended up jumping between guys and hooking up with him here and there(before mentioning this, she actually told me they are just friends, and are just talking after a friendly break-up). I realize this might not be the thing for me if I want to pursue a big thing, however a FWB might not totally be out of the question, considering all the things I've learned about her. Fast forward until the end of June, and we have a fun, flirty conversation that I started off of her Wapp profile picture, which was her stretching. I casually mention the fact that she seems like a lot more fun when she drinks a little bit(she admitted that she loves to drink with her friends) and that I'd really like to meet this "drunken version of herself". Keep in mind that until this point she is completely on board with the flirting and is responding back in the same playful manner. Well, at this point she completely flips the script and goes "well, I don't really like showing myself like that to people I really care about, especially when we might end up having something serious, then stop talking to each other when we cross paths on the street". Knowing what's coming, I try to go for one last shot by actually coming forward with the truth and I tell her I'm not really looking for anything serious at the moment either, considering summer is just coming(and to be honest, I already had plans with a couple other girls back in our hometown, so a serious thing wouldn't have survived). Then she gives me the LJBF speech, at which point I politely disagree with her and end it with "your life was not that much different without me anyway, considering we barely met at all and all we have are about 2 hours a month worth of texts". She says she's speechless, at which point I cut her off and decide on trying the 1 month reset tactic for the first time.

After a month, I hit her up again, and this time, the conversation seems to flow much better. Here it is(bear in mind this went on for a couple of days, since at least I had a busy schedule, I have no idea about what she was doing):
Me:Is that new haircut dragging your eyes down?
Her:I can't see the picture you're referring to
Me:That's no picture, I just passed you by the kindergarten and you didn't even flinch your eyes from your purse ;)
Her: :)) didn't see ya
Me: I figured. Why so short though? :(
Me: I assume you hated being the redhead version of Rapunzel. Sad, I've always had a soft spot for long hair(on the head, not any other place)
Her: goddd! you shouldn't have said that, you made me imagine nasty stuff :))))
Me: Imagination is a powerful weapon, especially when the wielder knows how to use it.
Me: "Life is more fun with a dirty mind" is one of my mottoes
Her: The motto is nice, however there is nothing fun about what you just said earlier :)))
Me: I never said fun had to affect people other than myself every single time. That's for me to decide. I am a generous god.
Me: I'm glad your romance got cured though(inside joke, in my language rheumatism sounds like romance and she complained a couple of days ago of back pain caused by cold sand)
Her: I'm not romantic...unless very rarely
Her: And even then, with only the deserving ones ;)
Me: That's not the kind of romance I meant...
Me: You get fired up too easily, I don't know if this is going to work :(
Her: I know :))
Me: You know nothing, B Snow(B is her initial)
Me: You coming today? Fyi the invitation is available every day starting 8 o'clock.
Her: :)) Where should I come?
Me: For a jog to the piers. That's what you get for answering late...my usual running partner answered his phone finally.
Me: If you want you can come, but I'm not sure you can keep up.
Her: Nope
Me: You got too attached to KFC, right?(inside joke, she eats a lot of KFC, she loves it, and the consequence is that another inside joke of ours is that she's fat)
Her: I have no stamina and I'm not in the mood to be left behind or something :P
Her: I'll start going out tomorrow with a friend for a daily jog.
Her: Duuude, our town doesn't have KFC
Me: One day we'll go out just the two of us, I've got to see you run
Me: I'm in the mood for some fun :)
Me: I never said KFC was from our town
Me: Just like I never said you got the one from (college town) off
Her: Other guys really appreciate my body ;)
Me: Tomorrow leave your friend at home and come with me, I'll leave for holidays and I'll never get to see my fatty
Her: Meh...I can't
Me: (this is where I think I sort of fucked up, I should have probably contested her boys comment earlier or something) I never said I didn't appreciate it, I thought I told you I liked it...
Me: But seeing it glow while jogging, that's a dream :))
Her: :))) Ok
Me: Unless we are at an US customs and you are the sexy revenue officer stamping my papers, I have no idea where that OK is coming from
Her: ;)))
Me: I h8 u
Her: ;) I'm proud
Me: I know, being modest is not one of your strong suits(in my language, proud can also mean sort of cocky)
Her: ;)
Me: You got something in your eye? I could take a detour and help you out.
Her: What a joke:
Me: Divided?
Her: Wait, I can't find the right emoticon
Me: By the time you find it, I'll have already finished jogging 6 laps.
Her:(sends a gif of a pigtailed brunette winking while seductively licking her lips)
Me: No glasses, pigtails...
Me: Long, free hair is what I like
Me: Bonus points for glasses, but not necessary(she wears glasses, not sure if I overdid it with this message)
Me: Pigtails? 6/10
Her: I just installed this gif app and I'm browsing all of them :))
Me: Pigtails are good only to be grabbed, but even then, normal long hair is more useful, it has a "freestyle" vibe to it
Me: If you ever get pigtails, I don't know you.
Her: I'm not getting them, I'm not 5 :))

The rest is just she talking in gifs pretty much. I was running when she sent me the last one, so I didn't even bother to respond since I saw it an hour late. I don't know, it seems like the reset actually worked, any ideas of how to progress it further? And no, at this point, I don't think I want to pursue an LTR with this girl, especially considering her history with her boyfriend and how she couldn't let go of him in the past(did I mention that during our last conversation before the month long break she was talking to both of us at the same time?)


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Here man:

Give this a read, and if it doesn't answer your question, repost a shorter version of this story with a direction question.

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You're more invested in her than you're trying to let on. The need to explain every other inside joke makes it quite obvious.

Anyway, she's not interested dude. Her replies aren't even flirtacious. And the more she pulls the more you push which is making you overly-gamey. Bit try hard.

You're not doing it wrong per se, you're just wasting your time on an unreceptive girl for whatever reason.

Read my texting guide, it will chisel some areas of your texting skills, but overall you're doing fine, just not with the right girl.

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PostPosted: Sat Aug 08, 2015 2:05 pm 
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@Eddie: I've just finished reading it. Just...wow. Amazing stuff. Loved it.

@R.C: So you reckon this is pretty much a sealed deal then, no potential for anything other than friendship, right? Again, I'm not talking exclusively about relationships here, she pretty much emphasized it a lot that that will not happen for her any time soon. Not to mention I'm not looking to get a relationship with her either, since she doesn't seem like the type of girl I'd want to be exclusive with.


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 09, 2015 8:38 pm 
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She's not interested. In a relationship nor anything else.

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