I’m 18 and the girl that I am extremely into is 18 also. I want to have sex with this girl, and would like a relationship. She is a virgin (Which surprised the hell out of me because she is truly hot). We are both in high school. One thing about me is when I have conversations I get really deep. How I define deep is, I talk a lot about stuff I have learned from, “The Power Of Now,” and a lot about analyzing people/ philosophy. My brother also shares a bit of this same mentality.

When she first started talking to me she realized that she was a lot like me. She has a strong connection to me. I met her three weeks ago. We have done a lot of hanging out together, probably around 30hrs+. I kissed her once on the first week and she sent me this message.

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Question 1: What do I do with her having an attraction to my brother because she feels like if she gets sexual or whatever with me it will make my brother sad and visa versa.

Two weeks later I kissed her again while we were at a trampoline place. The day after, I invited her over juts to chill. She started opening up to me a lot. My thoughts, “Fuck fuck fuck I don’t want to get friendzoned.” She talked to me a bit about past guys she has liked. Alongside many other conversations. Most were intriguing and entertaining.

-Side note- During this I was sitting on a couch across from here. Question 2: I know that wasn’t a good position for me so what should I have done.

She told me that she has trouble trusting guys because she feels like a lot of them fake how genuine they are because they want sex from her, etc. Because of this, she said that she doesn’t want to worry all the time but she does, she has built up a distrust towards guys. Then she accidentally let out that she even is kind of scared it will be the same thing with me.

She also talked about how she really wants to stay good friends and she doesn't want anything to ruin that. She also talked about that she didn't want to think far ahead about us doing sexual stuff but that it would all depend on the mood.

Question 3: What can I do to really build attraction, and is there areas I need to improve on?
For anyone who got here, thank you so much for taking the time to help me. This girl is special to me and it means a lot.

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It sounds like you're right, you are very close to be friendzoned. However, if you move quickly you can save it. She has discussed sex with you to some extent so that's a massive plus, and it does seem like you already have some attraction. What you need to do now is maybe dial back the deep conversational stuff, though not complelty maybe because she might sense a drastic change to your personality and smell something fake. But you definitely need to introduce a more playful tone to your interactions with her, using a hell of a lot more kino. She has let you kiss her before so it's safe to say you will be able to get away with quite a lot. You said that you sat on a coch accross from her, well the simple answer to that is to sit next to her. Start doing some push/pull kino stuff with her to get that fun, playful vibe. If she feels like she can have fun with you touching her then you're pretty much golden.

I think the only reason you are not fully friendzoned now is because you kissed her those couple of times so well done for doing that. So really think of your kino escalation as a volume knob, and steadily increase it over your future interactions with her.

You sound like a really nice guy. That's not necessarily a compliment.

1. Your brother should be your biggest wing and shut her down immediately.

2. You should've moved / sat next to her. Why didn't you?

3. Look her in the eyes when you talk. Tease her relentlessly. Have a semi-insulting pet name for her. Tell her you'll never be good together because she likes cats and you like dogs. Then tell her how perfect you are for each other because you both like icecream so you can grow fat together and cry yourselves to sleep in each other's arms.

Your style has to be congruent with who you are, but you need to have one. In light of what you wrote, my first statement is my opinion of you.
There's a lot I can tell you in this post, but it really all boils down to "be sexual".

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One of the problems i am encountering is that my brother has started to have feels for her :/ . We talked about it and he said that he isn't going to act on them. This exact thing seems to keep pushing her towards him though. I really don't know what to do in a situation like this =\

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Haha. Ouch.. It seems to be working for him so far..
That's a good idea. Are you saying brother do something to make her lose attraction from brother? Like what should he do? Make a seriously horrible insult? Fart!? What? That's a good idea, but what should he do to shut her down?

This is over for you. There's no getting this girl ):

She's really feeling your bro. She may have some low level attraction to you but I get the sense she doesn't want to hurt you as she respects you, but ultimately has feelings for him and is saying these things so you don't feel bad, as a sort of a consolation prize.

I wouldn't harp on it, instead move on.