Dear community, please help me
I will try to explain the problem as detailed as possible to give a clear view on the issue, so it will probably take me a lot of text.
I’m a college student, I’m in my second year right now. There’s a girl who is sitting in the same classes with me two times a week. First time I really noticed her was in February. One time during the class I noticed a girl staring at me. I didn’t really gave much meaning to it , I just turned away and acted like I didn’t see her. Some weeks went by and before I knew it, we started to look at each other constantly. We even started to take fixed spots in the auditorium so that we could always see each other.
At a certain point I started to develop feelings for her. All I could think about was Monday and Thursday, because that’s when I could see her in class. All I could think about was her. I have looked up student lists for all classes and have been checking out more than 500 female student names one by one on facebook trying to find out who she was. To make a long story short, I fell in love with her like a 15 years old kid. I didn’t have such feelings for many years and after reading PUA theories I never thought I could ever get such feelings again for a woman. At least not at age 23 anymore. I know 100% sure that she has some kind of feeling for me too or at least that she is attracted to me… Just by the way she looks at me.
I started to make plans on how to approach her. Approaching her was the hardest part. Reason for that is because she is surrounded by her 3 female friends almost all the time when I see her at college. Or when I see her alone, my friends are around… I’ve spent many weeks trying to “snipe” that perfect moment to approach her. I tried to find out what classes she takes , what bus she takes , when she arrives at college etc.. Just so I could find a moment to approach her 1 on 1.
One time I was on my way to college. I was walking on the street from the metro station and I suddenly saw her walking, she was walking in my direction. I thought to myself that this could be a perfect moment and I didn’t have much time to react, so when she was right near me I waved to her and said “hello, how are you doing?”. She said “what?”. There was a lot of noise from traffic so she probably didn’t understand me very well. Suddenly I got some kind of adrenaline attack and I just got paralyzed and I couldn’t speak out a word for like few seconds. She said that she had to hurry and take the train and that she will see me after the weekend. When I saw her in class after the weekend. The same old stuff repeated, same old looking-at-each-other game. And it was so weird I just don’t know what to anymore. Some of my friends say that it’s weird because I haven’t “broken the ice” yet.
Now the classes are almost over and the examinations will be starting soon. So I don’t have that much time anymore to approach her again. At this point I am so exhausted emotionally that I start to wish it would all be over.
I was thinking about adding her on facebook and just ask her if she wants to meet me some time after the class. Adding her on facebook is probably one of the shittiest things I could do, but I think I don’t even care anymore. Even if I get rejected by her that way, at least it would be a big redemption to me and would be able to finally forget her and start focussing on my exams. Another possibility for me is to approach her in real life. Please anyone, what should I do ?