I've been learning the game for about 2 months now and i've gone out at least 10+ times to college parties or dances and such. I've had some success in girls wanting me to facebook them and such (i've never asked for numbers yet because I'm just trying to get the hang of the game for now). I've even kissed closed at a party. However lately especially the last 3 outings i've been on, i've been unsuccessful. I've recently gotten over a cold, but my voice tends to fluctuate and i can't seem to control it. In the morning it will be very deep and i like it and then at night when I'm at parties or out socializing it get's higher pitched like AFC pitched I feel like and I don't like it like that. I'm 6'0 and weigh 205 with a 12% body fat because I work out and I just want my voice to reflect my stamina and sometimes it does and when i'm at parties it doesn't, how can I fix that? Also at parties girls are always like "what?...can't hear you" like all the time and I have a hard time yelling or getting my voice to project over the music and it's really tiring when gaming to constantly repeat yourself and it really bogs down my game and confidence in general when socializing. Any fixes? Help please.

I suggest singing. Most people don't want to go to someone that can help them learn to speak better, so you can do this all by yourself, in the car, in your room, washing the dishes, wherever you've got some music and feel comfortable belting it out.

When people go to a speech therapist, I've been hearing that they learn to sing so that they are able to control the pitch of their voice and project their voice better. So you don't NEED a speech therapist for that, you can do it just by putting on some music that has actual lyrics, I'm not talking rap, spoken word, or anything where they're not truly singing. Personally I like Weezer, Incubus, Cold War Kids, OK Go, Finger Eleven, NIN and Our Lady Peace. Copy how they sing, don't sing quietly, belt it out, turn the music up and sing as if you're on stage at a concert.

Once you learn to project your voice so that you're not keeping it to yourself, but trying to share it with the whole room and you have more control over the pitch and tone of your voice, then you should have a lot more success with women being able to hear you. One thing that really helped me, was seeing the sets that I talk to, as an audience at a comedy show and I'm the comedian. If you watch comics talk, they aren't quiet unless they know they have their audience hooked and they do it for dramatic effect, otherwise, they're shouting, they're laughing and being bolstrous. Copy those traits and you'll have everyone at rapt attention, then to make sure you have them hooked, you quiet things down and speak real quiet for dramatic effect, then bring it back up again. If you do that and everyone in the group follows your lead by getting quiet, then becoming energetic again when you do, then you know you have them hooked.

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that's good advice Rye!

i used to be a pretty soft talker, and also fairly mono-tone - used to be pretty conscious about my voice (pitch etc)

over time i've gotten over it, it used to be that in loud situations people would be saying "i cant hear you" etc etc, but as of late that rarely happens...

i would say its almost just practice and experience, the more i try and project my voice, the more its becoming second nature - when you are talking with someone in a loud environment, talk 2x as loud as you would normally feel would be adequate for them to hear, things like that helped me