Wow, I don't know where to begin...lol.
Alright, it wasn't BAD. Because sometimes, online game CAN (at times) be
very difficult, depending on the situation. So no worries, you seemed to handle
things alright, I guess.
Okay, here's the thing. Telling a girl to name interesting things about her shouldn't
just come up at the spur of the moment like that. What you did was just TRY
to get something out of her, and girls don't respond well to that (consciously
AND subconsciously).
Here's how I would have said the line: "So, other than the fact that you're "hot,"
tell me...what makes you different from all the other girls?"
Possible negative response: "Wtf kinda question is that?"
Reply: "Well, what I'm saying is that Sure, you're pretty,
but beauty is really common these days. I've dated some of the prettiest
women before. Hell, I've probably dated some people you may know! Haha.
But it's actually the personality that shines through. Now tell me, what
separates you from every ordinary pretty girl?"
The KEYYYYYYY to A3 questions like that, is to ask them in A3. You didn't
demonstrate any value at first. If the girl does not reply to the compliance
test ("Is there more to you than your looks?" line) then that means you
have not yet demonstrated enough value. She does not feel invested in
you, and doesn't want to qualify herself to you, because at the moment,
you have lower value than her.
Here are some of the main points:
Let's say your value and hers add up to 1.0.
*Opening:
Your value: ~0.2
Her Value: ~0.8
*Neg + DHV
The negs lower her value and the DHVs raise yours
Your value: ~0.7
Her value: ~0.3
A3 (qualification)
Now you need HER to qualify to YOU
Your value: ~ 0.6
Her Value: ~0.4
Comfort:
Then, in comfort, you need to show vulnerability and SLIGHTY lower your
value by showing weekness (Hey, you're only human, right? You have the
right to show emotion).
Showing vulnerability is done by telling a story where you were weak at
one point (for example, you cried because you were heart-broken to see
your little brother gettin surgery because you loved him so much) Something
like that usually works.
Anyways, after the story:
Your Value: ~0.5
Her Value: ~0.5
When you guys have the same value, you can "pair bond."
Anyways, those numbers might be a bit confusing, but it makes more sense
if I use graphs lol.
So, overall, you didn't demonstrate enough value. There was no kino
('cause it was on the the net). Body language is hard to calibrate over
the internet. And there were many restrictions on you, but it's okay. I'm
sure with a bit of experience on the internet, you will be able to tell if
she likes you or not. I recommend going IN FIELD to sarge, but whatever
makes you more comfortable, stick to it.
Oh, and one other point: You ALWAYS need to be non-reactive. If she gives
you a shit test like "wtf kinda question is that?" then you need to NOT SHOW
and emotion. You seemed to have been qualifying yourself to her too much,
and she just assumed that you were another guy. An AFC.
BUT, I REALLY liked how you stood up for yourself. By saying something
liked "A legit one." That's a good response. Props.
Oh, and nice way to end. "Then go talk to someone else!"
"Pleasure meeting you
"
Very nice. If you would have been like "FINE FUCK YOU, BITCH!!" Then
she will be like "Hm, it's a good thing I got rid of him. He's an ass hole!"
But by being polite and leaving, she'll have a sense of loss.
Hope this helped, buddy.
CHAT
