So im in a pickle... lately the girl i kiss closed texted me saying she wants to "slow-down"

background:

girl recently gets out of relationship, we've hungout a total of 3 times. first time i paid she had tip, second time she paid, third time i paid. The last time we hung out i told her well grab something to eat and head back to my house to watch movies. she was down, later that night i kiss closed, she was into it (moaning and etc) that night she was super polite and said she will text me in the morning, which she did. now here is where i may have messed up. The next day i didnt have to go into work like usual so i told her to "lets go to the movies" but that i wanted her to come over a bit earlier to "hangout". again she was wiling, she came over and we made out like usual, but this time when i kissed her nick she freaked out about having a hicky and than said we should leave the movie is starting now. so we went to the movies and came back home she decided to go home that night and gave me a kiss goodnight (not a peck but a actual kiss)

since then i hadnt herd from her and she would be on twitter saying "who needs a bf when you have a mom like mine" "all i want to do is school and work no time for none sense" but i ignored them. after 4 days i text her and she is a bit stand offish. I must admit i was a bit beta when i texted her because i said some silly things like "i miss your face" when i told her to come over she said she had plans, i said well i better see you tomorrow (again beta)
but here is how the texts played out:

me: goodmorning
her: morning
me: ive missed your face
her: awh i know its been a while lol
me: i want to see your face
her: definitely
me: come over later
her: i already have plans tho
me: oh, you better come by tomorrow
her: oh i better
me: yes, uts been too long since ive talked or kissed you (super beta)
her: i know (push?)
me: something wrong?
her: just dont want to move too fast, im not ready
me: where is that coming from?
her: im just saying that i just got out of a relationship like literally a month ago, im not saying i dont want to hangout just wanna go slow
me: i know, didnt expect to move fast just do our usual thing, on top of that im not looking for a relationship at the moment just throwing that out there.
her: okay that makes me feel better. sorry if im texting short im at work right now
me: youre fine, glad were clear just text me tomorrow have fun
her:
me: why the face?
her: youre gonna stop texting me?


i than called her and said that i dont like texting and if shes out of her feelings we can hangout the next day, she kinda got bitchy when i said "out of her feelings" i didnt care. when the day came she didnt text or call me or anything (i figured she wouldnt) its been a few days now and still no contact at all.

now my friend a pretty good pua suggested i should wait a few more days and text her basically to tell her that "its all good if youre not feeling me, im not feeling this either and not trying to waste me time" he said to make her "head spin"
not sure how much i agree with this but i wanted to get the experts opinions to see what they would do in this situation?

thanks,

the game's freshman

Hey man,

So - I see 2 possibilities here:

1) She's not through with her ex, and they started chatting again. You're on the losing end of that deal, if this is the case (I see this as the most likely possibility, based on her behavior).

2) Neediness killed you:
This is bone chillingly needy. I think you already know that, though. Skip the sappy stuff because she's not your girlfriend. You haven't even slept with her yet, so you shouldn't be acting so apparently head-over-heels for her. It's fine to show interest but this was a little overboard.

This is bad advice (IMO)... Just back off. There's no need to drop a line on her or be childish and take your ball and go home... Just fade out and give her some space. Do you think she really won't 'get it' if you just simply stop talking to her?

The added benefit there is that in the future if she changes her mind, and things don't work out with her ex, the door is still open to you because you were a cool guy, and you didn't say something stupid and burn that bridge.

This is also why she shouldn't be your only option right now. Have several... Then this one won't matter as much, and you won't be as needy.

To add to Charles advice, I'd say you were too blatant in the last few meetups about sex. As in you kept just inviting her over and getting her to your place.

This is horrible

She is being honest with you. She still remembers the ex and maybe her mind is still on him and she still tries to get him back. That shouldn't be something that bothers you. Things can change.
Give her some space and then ask her to go out again. Keep flirting with her, keep being fun, keep kissing her, make her associate you with something positive. Don't suggest anything that can be translated that you want sex such as going to your place/her place/to the movies etc.
Instead every time you see her kiss her more. Kiss her neck more. Hold her hand. Don't try to mark her with hickies. Turn her on that much that she is the one that asks to go somewhere more private. Make it all HER idea.
You can't convince a person with logic but if you alter their feelings they will convince themselves. Everyone does what feels good.

Thanks guys!
So should i back of completely and wait for her to contact me or should i contact her like @Maria_ said?
if i do contact what would be the objective and how would i go about it?