After a couple months going out, here are all my questions. Many are yes/no. Thanks for any feedback.
1. Noticeable Boner
Tips?
[Don't. unless you already have slept with her.. there is nothing more creepy than a girl seeing a random stranger guy with a noticeable boner.. it might turn pretty bad. ]
2. What to do with girl in Club
In line for the club the other day. HB7 was all over me. Time to enter the club. That's when I messed up. I pushed her away. And I walked home. Because I knew I couldn’t show her (or myself) a good time there. Reason: I don’t drink ($). Can’t dance.
Any tips on how to have fun in a club?
[You don't need to drink to be at a club.. for so long i messed up my game because i was either to drunk to have a cool conversation or too drunk that girls would just shoot me down., i have pulled girls out of clubs without even spending a dollar in there. If you are in a club and you don't know how to dance i suggest going to the smoking section and gaming girls that are tired of dancing, or chilling there.. also there are girls by the bars just taking up bar seats you can game them too., how to have fun in a club?,, umm well you simply go have a good time, listen to the music you like, sing along, laugh at people that are too drunk, tease girls with overly peacock ornaments.]
3. Opening Guys
Any preffered openers for making friends when going to a bar/nightclub alone? My default: “I’m out meeting people.” Problem, it’s a DLV.
[yes thats a DLV, rather than using that u could rather say something like "hey i moved a month ago, what clubs are more fun to go to.." they will give you their favorites.. ask for girl to guy ratio at those clubs.. tell them if they are out trying to look for girls, ask advice from them... usually even though i know game, i like to ask guys how they pull up chicks from the club, and whats like the best line that has worked for them.. you guys can relate to each other by picking up girls, make them friends and try to make them laugh and introduce them to girls u probably don't want for urself. ]
4. Answering Girl’s questions
I always give joke answers
e.g. Where do you work?
“I’m an astronaut.”
I think this creates intrigue. If she responds well, I’ll reward her later with the real answer. Good?
[i think its good to introduce humor to the conversation, but there are girls that act to bitchy if u tell them something like that so i simply avoid telling them overly exaggerated things. i usually say "i can't tell you right now, you might want to hit on me if i tell you." or "I'm a magician, look, give me a dollar. i can assure you i can make it disappear."]
5. Saying Hello
When I open should I be looking the girl in the eyes giving her lots of attention. Or should I be non-imposing, by perhaps not even looking at her when I say hello?
[always look at them in the eye, when you don't look at a girl in the eye they will assume that you are shy, or trying to show that u are cool for them, in the end they will lower your status.. give them a firm handshake, or if ur not shaking their hand look at them in the eye, smile, *important do not stare to the point you are a creep*.. simply look at them in the eye, make your eye contact sexual- like if that girl is the girl of your dreams and u you love her , you will radiate that energy towards her while with a smile for like 2 seconds then either look at the next one or simply start talking to her.. *]
6. See You soon
The other night HB7 was all over me. I had to go for a bit. Considered two ways of saying “see you later.”
1) earnestly: e.g. This was fun talking to you. I want to hang out with you later.
2) Disinterestedly: reason –my value is so high you don’t mean much to men?
Opted for #2. Saw in her eyes she thought I was a choad for not making a move.
Is #1 better?
[What steps can we take to keep this conversation going?, Hey give me a text when you get home!, it was nice to talk to you, but i got to go give me your number we'll talk later *have u phone already out and hand it to her so she can put her number. you seem like a girl i would like to know more, give me ur number.]
7. Cockblock
How much escalation should I do with a friend there?
How do I separate a girl from her friend for the makeout/pull?
[engage both, if they both act positively escalate on both and get a 3some, if her friend is a cockblock find a wingman.. otherwise you got to rely on your humor, and gaming skills to make her friend comfortable with you taking her friend aside.. ]
8. Pulling too early
That HB7 from the line to the seemed DTF.
Should I have just said “lets get out of here” before even entering the club?
[she seemed DTF ??.. well take your chances... u walked home alone either way.. should of at least try it out, never know u could have actually taken her home that night unless you act. ]
9. Personal Bar
What’s the best alcohol to have at your place for her?
[im a bartender, and depends on the girl.. but i suggest having a bottle of each liquor would do. this means
tequila, vodka, gin, whiskey, rum, + juices or flavor liqueurs you can mix.. ]
10. Kino
When GIRL touches ME, how should I respond? Should I touch her back? Should I push her away?
What if girl catches me EXECUTING kino (mechanically as opposed to naturally?
Any kino advice for the absolute tips for the absolute incompetent?
[why would you pull her away, just be like ''i usually charge but your cute so first touch is free anything aftr that its 5 dollars'' don't put your mind into the kino, the moment you start thinking, second doubting yourself about kino escalation is when they sense it the most and they could feel your intentions.. just do it normally at first then continue with some more, if she catches you ignore it just act normally, change the subject and take a step back from kino, then retry. ]
11. Your wing is a creep
PUA’s teach us to tell girls good things about our friends. But if your wing is acting super creepy, and the girls is bothered, should you still defend him?
[he is your wingman after all, but if that happens to me i would just simply say something like "my friend just went through a breakup he hasn't really talked to any girls for a while and i invited him to come out." usually they will understand and will try to cheer him up.. but also tell your wingman to stop being a creep. ]
12. Walking
Went to a bootcamp where we were told “always STOP the girl.” Agreed? Is it important to stop them as some point? How do I do this, by just getting in front of them and stopping?
[people have things to do.. i don't do much of day game, but i have been able to talk to random girls at random locations but i don't stop them.. i usually go indirect. asking them for the nearest bank, directions somewhere, opinions about something and from there i try to switch the conversation to a better one.. i have encounter guys that try to game my girlfriends in the streets while I'm there and i dislike it a lot because they come up with so high energy and creep out the girls. thats when i have to step in and also cause i don't let my girlfriends go with whoever haha.]
13. My Favorite Tease
“You seem too innocent to be in a club like this.”
I also like, “I’m judging you.”
Good?
[umm idk, i don't see what answer you expect from them.]
14. Opener
This is a cliché, but any really good defaults?
[Force an IOI, make eye contact, or if you see her looking at you, right away wave, nod , wave your hand so she can come up to you, smile and raise your drink something that makes her notice that you are noticing her and from there go and introduce yourself. i think these openers have a bigger success rate than just simply going in without any invitation. ]
15. Letting Girl Know I Like Her
To what extent should I do this?
[you seem cute you should be my girlfriend. smile and change convo, she would not know if u meant it or not.
whats your name -kate then of all the kate's i know your my favorite one.]
16. Dance
Have taken lessons. Watched a million hours of instruction on youtube. But still can’t dance. Any tips
?
[you just have to feel the music, feel the way the music sounds and move your body accordingly.. i dance 80's music and hip hop.. i suck at salsa, and all latin dances but hey i still go and crash and burn. i think I'm at the point where i know the basics of mostly anything. ]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=piR5smPoxRs check that out its by skills he
also writes often in this forum i got a lot of information from him and his youtube videos.
17. Topics to avoid
I try to avoid work, religion, where her accent is from? Any others?
[avoid anything depressing, anything that will cause arguments between you and her. i don't talk about religion, politics, and things that bore me.]
18. No out
I always get nervous about gaming a girl, say, in line for a club. Because what's she going to do? Get out of line? She can't reject me? Also, if she's harsh, everyone in line will see 15 min. of this girls rejecting me? Any thoughts on such scenarios
[just befriend the people inline, do not game them if you don't feel comfortable gaming them in the line.. i just say hi and ask them whats their favorite thing about the venue.. from there i try to relate to them and build a connection]
CHAT
