I had a friends with benefits situation a year ago, but screwed it up when she started dating someone seriously and I confessed my feelings for her like an idiot. Really didn't do it the best way. I know,I know...but I didn't really know what I was doing back then as much (still learning!)

She rejected me hard core, and I have since improved a lot. We didn't talk for six months, and in that time I lost over 20 lbs, and have gotten much better with girls-and she knows I have a lot of female attention. We've been hanging out a lot recently, but she stresses VERY clearly she won't ever go back to my place alone, and that we are "just friends" and it would be "wrong" to sleep together when she doesn't feel that way about me,she doesn't want me to get attached. Which is ridiculous, I never liked her for sexual reasons and I don't get attached because of sex.

She constantly rambles on about other guys to me too no matter how much I try to change the topic-although I've recently started talking about other girls when she did that and it really seemed to annoy her and made her ask me to hang out that night. After I mentioned all the other girls too when she was doing that,she even insulted the (much better looking!) girl who hit on me right in front of her the last time we were out and called her a bimbo.

I know you probably think I have one-itis, but I am not *that* concerned about it. I wouldn't even date someone so superficial (she won't date me because she thinks I don't make enough money-I am definitely not doing bad, but I'm no doctor) anyways, but she's fun to hang out with and talk to, and it would just be so much easier to crash at one of our places when we hang out and have some sex if we don't score at the club when we do go out-not to mention it's starting to wear on my ego that she had sex with me before but seems SO unattracted to me now,especially since I feel I look better.

I understand she's worried I'd get all attached and needy again, but I'm definitely over that. We went seven or so months without talking (when we used to talk every day) and I didn't bug her or message her at all during the time- clearly I can go without her, and even have hotter girls hitting on me.

Any suggestions on how to do some kino with her without being creepy about it, and show her I wouldn't get attached? She seems to be warming up, but it's getting frustrating. Oh, and also I want to sleep with her because the last time we did it was just "eh" as we were both tired and I didn't know it would be the last time we would have sex (I had no idea how serious she was with the other guy at the time,she acted like it was just casual when she talked to me and they hadn't slept together)

I just kinda want to have really amazing sex with her for the last time, not leave it on that medicore note

Thanks for any help!

That pile of crap is just her way of saying. 'I don't need to fuck you, your giving me my attention quota with out me spreading my legs. There is no need to offer reward for something I already own."
Funny how this worked better than anything else you've done.
This is the sound of dbag lying to himself.
Use this plausible scenario, in combination with her attention seeking slutty ego, and your own opinion of your last 'union'.

You; "We might as well crash at my/your place. Don't worry. after our last mediocre romp under the covers, I have no interest in fucking you." "I prefer hot passionate lustful sex over mediocre every time."

There you have a brand shiny new frame. your dick is the reward she will stop at nothing to win.

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Yeah, maybe I will try that, thinking of just not hanging out with her anymore as much though. The jealousy thing was really weird, I do agree. Getting really sick of her games-its pointless.

And I really don't get attached because of sex, especially not mediocre. If I miss someone who isn't sleeping with me anymore, I just have sex with someone else-funny how that makes me forget about the first person lol

Beautiful.

UPDATE:

I sort of did what you guys said,as it was too late to go anywhere else when I finally came over, and she actually did invite me in. She was throwing herself at me, but I was just so turned off ( she rambled all night about every hot guy she saw) that I just left. I'm so over it:P Just enjoyed the challenge I think.

Why so hormonal?

Do I have this correct?

In review;
You wanted the pussy.

You asked how to reclaim and get the pussy.

You were shown, how to GET the pussy.

You used the instruction on the pussy.

The pussy was THROWN at you.

You turned down the PUSSY!

WTF?

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Damn... sounds just like a situation I'm going through... Precisely the same story (only we never got past the k-close) with the exact same girl. I literally could have written this down to the dot.