I was gaming within social circles (friends of friends) If I've DLVed by conveying too much interest and then let her disrespect me by not addressing bad behaviour at the time (I was shocked by HBs behaviour that I was actually speechless). What can I do? I find her physically 8 but her attitude is just shit. I've got the most amazing onenitis for her and the biggest hardon - as in I want to fuck her until we're both sore type hot but she's just rude. Its happened to two different girls, about two years apart. How do I deal with this? I tried playing cold but since obviously I lost respect, it just doesn't work as well. Furthermore, it just doesn't make sense to give her cold shoulder any more than I have and expect a different result. I've approached other HBs and that works until I see her then I just go crazy for her again.. Its almost like pheromones. Can someone give advice?

I am not sure but I think you are in the friendzone

Try not seeing her for a while, a week or two, and than when you see her again, do everything good or even perfect.

Create massive preselection. Have new and cooler clothing. Create jealously plotlines. Make her afraid she is losing you. Use coldreads from The Pandora Box System. Use false decisions to stay in control. Stay in control in general. Deal the right way with challenging (if you don't know what I am talking about here read The Attraction Code, or ask me ). Deal the right way with hoops. Etc

Do this kind of shit and eventually things will turn better. Than when things have turned better, ask her for a female opinion or something, doing that always works amazing for me. By asking for a female opinion I have managed to stop even very suspicious, hot, moving girls who thought I was a player or something.

Was that good advice?

Sigh... You put her on a piedestal for no reason, and you have no boundaries and let people treat you like shit. Focus on her major flaw, her personality, until you can't see anything else but all that ugliness. See her as the truly ugly person she is and start treat her with the same disrespect. You may start a fight. But as long as you stay calm (as an alpha male should), you should have the upper hand. Then just ditch her as hard as she deserves, and move on.

Thx 10Tricks and hugge.

It's a shame I wasn't able to deal with it sooner. Second crush experience TOO - Cold and harsh advice but well received. Fuck hugge you are one cold bastard - the next James Bond? How do you avoid onenitis - I approach consistently and didn't expect to be hit again but after the parties, my mind drifts to the one? its uncanny

you ever play a game with family, and get upset that you didn't win. pretty much what you took from the interaction you got from her. since you didnt get what you wanted you wanted her more

I guess its somewhat like what you describe zirk but its more intense and seems somewhat more immature haha

1. give up all hope of ever getting with her
2. don't take shit from her whenever you do see her
3. withdraw for a little while. Spend less time around her, be less responsive.
4. start talking to other girls, spiff yourself up a little bit - get some cool new clothes, new haircut. Step 3 combined with this step are a way of re-making yourself so that you can break down old stereotypes about you. Plus, these things can give you a confidence boost.
5. Let her indirectly find out about other girls' interest in you. This plus the confidence boost from some fresh leads should give her some "oh shit, I missed out and was wrong about him" regret. Possibly.
6. do not expect to get with her!


If you do all of this you MIGHT get her re-interested. But sometimes losing her interest once is all it takes. Move on.