So I've been getting a bit frustrated lately (hence the title). From the time I've started pick up to now, I've been a bit more extroverted. I'm dancing in clubs, using jokes to open up 3+ sets, etc. I've been getting/getting more numbers lately. But that's it! I just have a phone of empty numbers. The numbers I get will either: A. Not respond or send me their number, B. Respond but fall off in a few days, or C. Be maybe a bit more enthusiastic, but might only text me once every day or two.....and then just fall off. No drive to really get to know me, go out, sex, etc.

I can't say I don't separate myself from the crowd. I dress like a dancer, a bit conservative, but at the same time a little bit out there. Hell, I dance, and damn well good. I get crowds of people around me. So in a club, I stick out. I always smile, joke around a bit.....yet nothing comes back my way. I've read books on game. I can't remember steps/lines like that, especially in the heat of the moment, but I get them talking and laughing, only for when it's time for them to go, no one ask me for my number, or wants to give me theirs.

The built up frustration is now causing me to believe that maybe I just don't have the right genes/not meant for this stuff. I have little to no masculine qualities (short, bright round eyes, I go to the gym but I'm still a somewhat growing ectomorph, round face, non masculine jaw, etc.)

So of course, here comes my question. Is the the "do-or-die" moment successful men in this field of life face. Is this the time where I either get a big break through or die not trying? I knew I wouldn't be getting women over night, but at the same time, I'm tired of blowing it, having empty numbers, and just the overall feeling I'm going nowhere in this.

First off, they aren't going to ask for your number 9 times out of 10, even if they like you. Get that shit right out of your head.

Second, fuck numbers. Sure, it's nice to have if there's a REAL time constraint and you want to hook up later, but it sounds like you need to step it up and go in for the kill. Start trying to get them to a point where you can kiss them, then eventually take them home.

Third, you need to work on your inner game. If you feel unworthy and ugly, no matter how much you dance and smile, people will see it. Faking confidence only gets you so far. You need to fall in love with yourself for others to love you.

Don't worry about routines, they're for beginners. Try to make a human connection, have fun and stay in the moment. Let the situation work naturally. They're just fucking people, man. They have hobbies, beliefs, goals and they want to fuck as well, otherwise they wouldn't be going out.

Send me a message if you need further help. Good luck.

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Yeah, sounds like you might be just after numbers. Focus on creating more of a connection the first time you meet them. More touching, conversation (which means mostly listening to her), escalating, etc., With many girls you can even seduce them right then and there. Some might be fine with exchanging numbers and going out again, but you might not be making enough of a connection that first time to have them care.


Also, if you have inner game issues, adopt a honey badger attitude towards life. You don't give a shit, you're gonna just go after what you want as much as you want and not give a shit about what anyone thinks. You are comfortable in your own skin, because you KNOW you are attractive and a sexual threat, you don't need anyone else to tell you that or validate you, and knowing this you don't let anyone else hurt you or define, you just keep going after pussy, because you're the man, you're tough as shit to break and what's more, you don't give a shit. This is attractive and people will follow you.