I've been chatting online with this girl.
There's been loads of flirting, joking, nice chatting. But she resists my attempts to meet her.
She doesn't say no, says she rather not, she's not ready, etc.
She also expresses concern that I don't get too involved with her.

My opinion is that she is either an attention whore, or that she is really doubtful. My take is that she never thought of taking online chats further than that, but she feels attracted. Sure there's the attention I'm giving her.

She texts me before going to bed, when she wakes up (sometimes going back to sleep, then when she wakes up again. If I allow it we can spend hours texting (it has happened). I'm pretty sure that she's interested, but I think she never seriously thought about taking an online talk to the real world.

In our previous talk, I pressed her, she acted like she's only chatting me because the world is full of false people. So framing me into a position I would be falling over her. She stressed this frame, but asking me not to get addicted to her! I somewhat broke the frame, and told her that I would not be text forever.

In our last talk I imposed a time limit, and got more distant. She was getting from me the attention girls get from a boyfriend, without any more involvement. She clearly noticed it although it was a nice fluf talk. I negged her a bit, by acting surprised she was online, she eventually asked me what would I do if she went of line for somedays. I ignored the question, but am unsure what to answer if she asks again. I'm think that if I'm to alof about it she might think she's just one more too me. Alternative, I know I can't give her too much importance. On the other hand being cocky or ignoring will not work forever as she may demand a straight answer.

Any advices, suggestions?
Txs

OK. here is what I came up with.

First, shit teste = congruence teste, thus almost any answer will do as long as it is congruent with my past behaviorismo, which I think was OK. Second, I can never really guess what is in her mind.
Só I'll just be cocky and funny if she hits me again with it, AMD if she insiste I'll show her that her questionar is a bit stupid, by asking exactly does she want to ask me!

what do you guys think?

Why still talk to her then? If it even is a her.

Seriously - kill the convo altogether. Ignore the bitch and just go find someone who actually exists in person and wants to see you.

You can't be that desperate that you need this ONE woman.

Because if I only take easy women I learn nothing!
I pretty sure she's a she, because she shared some personal data. There is always the possibility that a she is a he, even if she's easy.

This isn't a challenge -- this is desperation on your part.

Catfish anyone?

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About desperation:
There is obviously a time to give up. But not just because it's getting a little difficult. For me what makes the difference is to have other options going. So if I just get tired I give up. Otherwise, pick up becomes try a lot to find the easy ones.

About Catfish:
There's always the possibility, someone who knows enough. I have to consider that more closely.

Ok. For me the thread is closed.
I decided it really doesn't matter if she is an attention whore or just plain insecure. I'll treat her like an attention whore for a little, then see what happens and see if there's something to be learned.

best

Seriously man, consider it. I've been catfished before. I spent hours, days, and a few years talking to a girl who was not the person she presented herself to be. Thankfully, I didn't drop everything for her and hold out for her to be mine, but I shared so many intimate details of my life with this girl and I felt fucking stupid once the truth came out.

Can't even tell you how many times I fell for the "I don't have a recent picture" line, bro. I was just asking for it. It was like the X-Files line, "I want to believe."

So here's a little routine I picked up from DYD that could put a lot of that to rest. "How do I know those are really your pictures? You could be some fat guy in his mom's basement, posting up pictures of some random girl."

The idea is to goad her into proving she is that girl, and she will likely suggest you two meet. Worked for me, and wound up going out on 2 dates with a real hottie, total stranger I met on FB. Didn't F-close, but that's my fault, different story.

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She likes the validation. This girl probably has no intentions of ever meeting you.

Drop her dude. It's either a catfish or an extremely needy girl. If she's completely unwilling to even talk on the phone or webcam it's very probably a dude or some shit. Quit convincing yourself otherwise.