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Finally got around to read the guide. It does not fit my situation.
Just to clarify:
I was sexual right from the start, so although I am friendzoned I was never the castrated guy or the gay friend. I flirted with her, hit on her shamelessly, comented on other girls, etc. I honestly think that was part of what was holding me back. She usually dates jerks with great looks, I was being a jerk with average looks. I say this because anytime I stoped gaming and in fact talked to her and was her friend, it brought us closer. Also, she is very extroverted, always talking about sex and that. So that's it for being more sexual. It simply is not an option because I tried it and it did not work. Although I believe I am moving in the right direction. When I first tried it she openly disliked it, now she mostly ignores it and sometimes (rarely) goes with it and flirts back a little bit.
She has some issues. Father died when she was a kid. Her relationship with her mother is not very good. No other family present. She has a very strong fetish for fireman, dated two, both times it ended badly, and because of that she has some trust issues. She says she is done with them but somehow always ends up looking at the same bad boy tipe. Underneath that crazyness, she is in fact a "good girl". Does not smoke, does not drink, has an healthy lifestyle, she's not as shallow as she seems and I've seen her have more than one act of moral highness. She always talks about love and says she is ready for a comitement. She just somehow always ends up making the same mistakes again.
I am pretty sure I am one of the people she is closer to, she confides very personal stuff with me and always looks to me for support.
I just read a post about a girl with issues and someone mantioned one of the options for the poster was to help her change her life for the better. I honestly believe she is trying to change her life for the better but somehow always reverts to old patterns in the end.
After I declared I was intersted in her and she said she was not into me things got a bit awkward. I cleared the air, said I did not hold a grudge against her, that I understood her position but I just had to know and that I will still be there as a friend when she needs me. After that things got back to normal or maybe even a bit better. She complains the guys she has dated before get all moody for nothing, maybe my mature attitude scored me some points, I don't know.
That is why I am a bit reluctant in trying the full freeze out (wich is impossible since we work together) or the shamelessly hit on other girls. She had her fair deal of "players". All better looking than me. And I think (correct me if I'm wrong) that the only thing I have going for me is being better than them. Girls I know and do not game usually call me "a gentleman". As I said, things got better when I quit gaming her, so if I go back to that I will just be giving her the bad part of what she had in the past without the good looks, big arms and ripped abs.
I was thinking about using Gambler's friendzone destroyer (be around, but not as much), hit on other girls but not like I don't give a fuck, more with an aproach like "I got ONE girl I'm into" to show her what she is missing, be her best friend (although not as often as before) and work on my vibe without making moves on her.
Anything else I should be doing? And how do I "work on my vibe"?