You are treading on a very very very fine line into the friendzone my friend and its YOUR fault not hers. YOURS. I'm not having a go but every step into the friendzone is YOUR fault. Girls don't friendzone guys, guys friendzone themselves.
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You seem to have good game, I'd like to hear more advice from you. What did you mean by if you want her as a girlfriend he honest? Should I go up to her tomorrow and tell her I want her as my girlfriend?
No. Thats far too direct and would scare any girl of. Ask the question to yourself. At the moment your game is way off so I wouldn't think about saying anything till you've fucked her again then taken her out. What I mean by honesty is that you want to be honest but vague. So if you fucked her again then took her out.
You *on the date*: Hey just so you know. I see you as more then sex but I want this to be casual...lets just see how it goes yeah. <This leaves it completely open and mysterious = attraction.
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1. I might have taken one step forward and then one step backwards
- I stopped contact with the girl for 1 week but somehow she found out about a party that my friends were going to and asked if she could go with me.
Don't stop contact because you think it will get her attention. Stop contact because you're BUSY. A busy guy is a guy with options. Options = attraction.
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- Since telling her I had a crush on her we were both trying hard to impress each other but at this party we both didn't care anymore and both just acted sloppy. I ended up driving her home drunk. This sloppyness broke the awkwardness of her wanting to be just friends.
You're slipping into the friendzone. You're giving her lifts home and looking after her when she's drunk. What has she done recently to warrant such behaviour. Reward good behaviour with good behaviour. If she's being boring and dull at the party then go chat to other girls.
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- The next day she texted me asking me to get lunch with her. I gave her a specific time and place to meet. I misread this, she didn't want a lunch date, she was just wondering if I was in town at that specific time and if so join her because she was just about to get lunch.
aka. what she does with guy friends. Meeting for lunch isn't something you do with a girl unless you're friends with her or her boyfriend. You are slipping into the former. She is also taking control. You need to have control for her to have attraction to you.
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2. The beta that confessed his love for the girl tells my friend group his story.
- Currently no one knows that I like this girl or that I have asked her out except for me and her.
Keep it this way. This is slightly beneficial to you. If you do get off with her again/fuck her then bring this up. Something like "Oh obviously nobody knows about us and such...lets keep it that way." Secret sex = dangerous sex = exciting for her.
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- All the parties that we go to are set up by my friends. The girl and the beta started as outsiders to the group but have recently become part of the group since we've all hung out enough now.
irrelevant. Talking about other guys with this girl IS WHAT HER FRIENDS DO. If she starts talking about other guys with you then just casually change the subject without looking phased by it. Even guys she's not interested in. You're becoming her emotional blanket. The guy she can talk to about all the weirdos that try it on with her without having to bend over.
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- I'm the person in the group closest to the girl. Now before every event she goes to, she asks me if the beta is there before she makes an appearance and will not show if he is there unless it is a major party
You're being friendzoned. Talking about other guys IS WHAT HER FRIENDS DO! If she texts you shit like this just don't reply.
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- The beta today told my friend group that things are awkward between him and the girl because he told her that he loves her and that shes does not feel the same way.
Irrelevant.
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- The girl will probably want to know this piece of information.
So? Everytime you talk to her about other guys it acknowledges in her brain that you CARE about the other guys. You don't want this. You want to see unphased by other guys in her life because guess what you have other options. <although you definitely need to get some.
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- A major party is happening tomorrow and both the beta and the girl will be there even though they know that the other person is also going.
Irrelevant. If she mentions the beta guy to you and the party or says something like "oh he's going to be there, will you keep him away from me/look after me???" < this is her trying to manipulate you. Take the control back with something like "haha Man up, I'm not doing that. I want to have fun tonight. You can join me in that" < You've taken control back.
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I feel like somehow I can exploit the beta telling his story and the amount of information I know to my advantage with the girl. I'm not sure what my next move is.
You don't need manipulative tactics like this. This is what girls do EVERYDAY and she'll be able to sniff it out a mile away. Girls are raised on bitchiness and manipulating men into doing what they want.
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But I also feel like if I keep informing this girl on whether the beta is at each event or not that I'm her bitch.
Yup
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I also feel like if I don't appear at these events or not message her back that it will be too obvious that i'm trying to avoid her.
Jesus you're overthinking this. Seriously you've had sex with this girl once and you're letting her effect your decision to text or even attend a party. Stop putting the "pussy on a pedestal" she's just a girl. She's not going to jump on your cock if you don't attend the party or not text her back. With the texting just keep it casual. Stop trying so hard and it'll relate back to her and STOP relying on texting. Just be meh about texting and rely on Face 2 Face for kino and attraction. For example, this girl tried to friendzone me. She's been trying to get my attention as my texts/attitude towards her as flipped from giving her attention to just being casual. She hates it and wants that attention back, to the point where she is willing to embarass herself to let me know she wants it back. Do I care? not really, I've shagged her already and she mindfucked me so I'm going to use her as practice for future girls.
Her: Heeeey. So me and some friends are going to <night out here> tonight. Are you going as well? if not join us
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Me: Hell no. Hanging from last night, was mental. <demonstrated that i'm busy as don't care if she was there or not = options = attraction.
Her: Ok...whatever, I'm just going to stop trying....now! <Oh dear lord this girl is an idiot. She has to let me know she's not going to chase me anymore in hope i'll react and chase her. I give it a week before she texts me again asking to meet up.
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Another alpha in my group tried to get with her through keno and got shut down and is now not returning her texts. This approach isn't working out for him as this girl has self respect and thinks the guy is a complete douche now.
Sorry mate but no. She's told you she has self-respect so she can feel good about herself when you agree with her. Whats ACTUALLY happening is.
Alpha tries it on with girl.
Alpha gets shotdown but...number closes.
Girl starts texting Alpha.
Alpha thinks "didn't get laid so meh"
Girl starts complaining about alpha = is thinking about him. <This is what primarily builds attraction in a girl. If she's thinking about you even negatively...she's fooling herself into being into you.
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How do I handle this? Keep in mind, I'm not even completely sure of this but it does seem logical, that this girl probably doesn't want a guy at this time given the situation.
Stop caring about what she wants. Go by what you want. If you want to just fuck her then whats stopping you from going out, getting numbers and spreading that seed. If you think you want her as a girlfriend...WHY? from what you've said she seems quite dull and manipulative. This shows her true qualities. Do you find those qualities attractive.
P.S. You have oneitis. The only cure is
GO OUT AND GAME YOUR ARSE OFF.
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