Ah, god dammit!!
I knew this had to happen sooner or later, and the thing is that I'm the kind of guy that gets obsessed on "projects" until the "job is done". This is what made me a successful business man and a pretty decent athlete (even competed internationally this year). But now I can't get this monkey off my back and need some feedback.

Prelude
So I met this Russian girl about a year ago. She was decent looking (HB7) but was turning 30 and has a child. I didnt want to spend the rest of my life with her and was upfront about that.
After seeing me only two times, we had sex and I on a vacation (alone) to Amsterdam. She was asking me all the tiime "where are you? Why haven't you answered my last facebook message in hours? Are you sure you are alone?" etc.
A few days later, she send me a message telling me she loved me, and that she hoped her dream man loves her as much as she loves him etc.
She also invited me to come with her to Riga to meet her family after that.

I saw her a couple of more times, then bailed out. She was too intense, and I went with another (too intense) bisexual latino girl that was 10 years younger. That was great for a while, before it all blew up in my face without any threesomes. *Sigh*

When I "dumped" Russian girl, she wanted to talk and talk about it. She said she wanted me to find someone she could sleep with in the weekends without feelings, and referred to some of my friends. I assumed she was joking.
Later she "suddenly" found another russian friend who happened to live in the same small town as me (she lives about 45 minutes away) and started to hang out near me.

When the thing with the bisexual girl was over, she still hadn't found a new man, and was ready to get back together. I thought "why not".
We went to Riga a few times, went out nearly every weekend, and in the weekdays I would nail other girls. She would date about 5-6 boys for the next seven months that we hung out, but never get feelings for any of them.
I was able to get some threesomes with her, even though she wasn't a bisexual, and the sex was awesome, so I stuck to it, even though there was a lot of drama.

After going on vacation with her and...ehem...another bisexual girl we had tried a threesome with before, the drama was unbearable (but having threesomes every day for my vacation was a hoot! ). And the constant lies were irritating me. Just small stuff, but still.

One day she said she wanted to date more boys and I accepted this - but of course not each others friends or anything.
I checked in (on facebook) at a local bar the next day with a girl, and Russian girl went crazy, and then proceeded to borrow her friend's boyfriend and make fake romantic photos with him and post it on facebook! So much for an open relationship - my patience was fed up.

The betrayal
Now she was getting more and more difficult, and when she deleted me as a friend on facebook, I was relieved. But not when I saw that she had tagged herself at a bar in Oslo with my closest "friend" from the gym! WHAT THE!!!!
This guy was a real loser. He is 40 years old and about 8 inches shorter than me (I'm 6"2). He has huge arms and chest, but he is worthless as an athlete and useless in for example strongman competitions (he couldn't move the weights I warm up with).
He lives on welfare and hasn't had a (legal) job all the time that I've known him, and he has had a heart attack and massive mental problems after overdosing on narcotics, steroids and alcohol. He told me he had been locked up in a mental institution for 10 months in the past and sees a psychiatrist once a week. He is diagnosed with depression, paranoia and PTSD (post traumatic stress syndrome). He is of course dirt poor, very stupid and speaks almost know English at all.

So I called him up and started screaming at him. He lied and said they met "randomly" at a pub and just as friends. He has social anxiety and rarely goes further than a kilometer away from his home, unless he can get on a plane or bus and leave very far - to a place where nobody knows him.
He insisted that he had every right to meet her again if he wanted to, and I disagreed.

Long story short - he has always claimed to have worked as a hitman for Hell's Angels - and told me that if I knew what was good for me, I would stay out of this and "let it pass". I answered back with death threats. He had never experienced this reaction before and went completely silent. I told him to check my friend's list on facebook and do a wikipedia search on some of them. He got scared, I stood in front of his home with one of these guys (but did nothing), and was later handed a restraining order. Well, I'm not going to let some ugly, retarded dwarf bully me around!!

I didn't call Russian Girl as it was obvious to me that she had just met him to piss me off, and would never sleep with such a pathetic clown. Who the hell would do something like that to themselves? The guy has many children with different women, but has no contact with them, but during the years that I have known him, he has struggled a lot to meet any girls, no matter how hard he tried to cheat on his ex-girlfriend.

I then found photos on the internet (after one of her friends were shocked and tipped me) of them kissing! WHO THE HELL WANTS THAT UGLY FACE TOUCHING THEIR OWN!!!!

Later Russian Girl told me it was all just a "joke" to get him to show the messages between him and me, that there was nothing going on between them, and that there had been no sex.
But she didn't want to give me all their messages, just some. I could see that he had stabbed me in the back and started telling her that I was "using her" and that she had to "open her eyes", before inviting her many times to come and spend the weekend with him (before we even broke up).
Russian Girl later asked me to please delete and block her. She couldn't do it herself, as she still had too strong feelings for me.

I then dropped all contact with her for a while, and took it for granted that she would never see him again, as he is completely unattractive to all women.
I then went to Italy to compete -about one month after Judas and Russian Girl had met - and when I was in my hotel room I checked her facebook from another profile and saw that she had opened up half her page to the public, all photos that Judas had commented and/or liked!

I then called her to ask her if we could finish this as grown-ups. She admitted that she liked getting his attention and that she would keep him as a friend "to the day she died" if it irritated me.
She still refused to have slept with him.
I took it for granted that they had just been internet friends and nothing more, as he is a total loser.

Later she started texting me, and she wrote "when I meet him I feel like a woman, and not 1 of 100 sluts for fuck, I know the difference even if I will not be in a relationship with him". Well! And you don't feel like a slut when even the lowliest of junkies and welfare swindlers fuck you!? He can work, but he prefers to only do it randomly and without paying taxes.

I assumed that she ment "when I met him" as in that one time.
She also tried to make me jealous by telling me that they were going on vacation together, but then started laughing as the idea of them on vacation was "too stupid". She then tried to tell me she was going with another guy instead (lets call him "Thomas"). I was hoping this was true, as all I want is for her to meet someone else than "Judas" so I can laugh in his face and humiliate him even further!

She has done a lot of stuff on her facebook intended for me after that. For example she went on vacation and made all the photos public. When her friend wrote "who are you with?" in Russian, she answered in English: "secret! "

When I tagged myself at a café with a HB9, she would write straight on Judas' wall (she know I have 50 mutual friends with him): "Are you busy this weekend? "

I then got a hold of the police file. The idiot had included almost all facebook messages between himself and Russian Girl. I noticed that he was a huge beta, asking her if she wanted to move in with him before they even met. Also when she said she needed to think about whether they should meet again, he told her he loved her and wrote "pain, pain pain" before sending her a link to an awful 80s music video called "broken heart". He then proceeded to "threaten" her with drinking and crying in his apartment, if she wouldn't see him anymore.

But I also saw that they had sex that weekend when they met. YUCK! Two times!
OK - I used to nail her 3-5 times a day (honestly), but still - yuck!

I sent her a screen shot of a message Judas had sent me six months earlier where he bragged about getting a 16 year old prostitute and a 21 year old for only $150 on a vacation to Bulgaria (paid for by his parents).
I told her she was a slutty, cheating whore, and that even teenage prostitutes had more pride than her, as they at least know to get paid before having such a disgusting man inside them.
She replied by opening up a photo of her and Judas at a local restaurant near him, dated the same day as I was competing in Italy. What on earth could motivate a girl to meet a guy that has no friends, no social intelligence, no game and can't keep a conversation with her at all!? Just mind games and bitterness?

I then spoke with Judas' ex-girlfriend who used to live with him. She sent me a photo of herself after Judas had beaten her half to death, sending her to a crisis senter - fleeing for her life! Blood was pouring out of both sides of her mouth, her nose was crooked and parts of her left face was swollen. I sent this to Russian Girl and assumed that this was the end of her childish games.

I was wrong! I drove past his apartment on my way to the gym, and lo and behold - she was there!
I sent her a message saying that if she wants to be beaten half to death, then fine by me, but please don't go outside as I would die of shame if someone recognized her with him, as he was too lowly and pathetic. I never did anything with him in public, as he would humiliate himself and all around him given more than 30 minutes available!

She answered by posting a photo of him in his apartment with the text "great party with dangerous Judas" and a heart!
I took a screen shot and sent it to the old, ugly and very stupid girl that Judas was seeing before he betrayed me. He had kept her "on the side" so to speak. But after I sent her my photo, she deleted him as a friend on facebook. Payback's a bith!

Later I sent a screen shot of a chat between Russian Girl and me, where she confessed that she sometimes watches animal porn, and that she had tried to have sex with a dog. Needless to say, she was angry as hell and posted something public on facebook about "cruel people who only hurt themselves".

Next weekend Judas was randomly writing to people on my friend's list to talk shit about me, but of course this all backfired on him. I closed off my profile (it used to be public) and started dating a smoking hot 24 year old blonde with a lot of style and class instead.

Russian Girl suddenly called me that Saturday and asked for a meeting. I said "sure, I can come to Judas' apartment in 30 minutes, I know you are there now". She started stottering and became silent, obviously talking to Judas. No, I couldn't come to him. So I asked if the "tough and dangerous Judas was too much of a coward to meet me alone in his own apartment - I am so dangerous? But to send his girl to meet me alone is OK, for him? What a real man you have found!"
She tried to hide the disdain in her voice, and asked if we could meet later. I told her I couldn't as I was meeting a girl. She raised her voice and said "I don't care who you see!" Oh, really?
I told her "maybe next week".

Next week she asked me three times if I could meet, and each time I gave her a new date. Eventually she said "no - I am busy too!" I didn't answer.

That weekend she didn't meet Judas on Friday or Saturday I think. She went to another district to meet a Russian girl and sat in the disco. She posted this publicly on facebook. She then posted a song by Pink - with lyrics and a sad smiley. This was in the end of November. They betrayed me on September 13th. The song is called "I don't believe" or something, and the lyrics go like this:

"No, I don't believe you
When you say don't come around here no more
I won't remind you
You said we wouldn't be apart

No, I don't believe you
When you say you don't need me anymore
So don't pretend to
Not love me at all"

Obviously meant for me.
I know that on Sunday she met Judas briefly for 3-4 hours and they went for a walk with her dogs (saw this on his profile). The she went home and posted something on her profile from her computer (not mobile, so she was home, trust me).

Then Judas suddenly became friends on facebook again with the girl I sent the photo to (who dumped him).
Russian Girl then changed her cover photo to a text that said "my wall, my rules, my life!!!!"

I think that perhaps Judas had been very hurt that she had dropped contact as soon as I had told her I wasn't interested in a meeting, because I had everything I needed from her now that I had gotten that photo to mess up between Judas and "ugly old woman". I think he was trying to use "ugly old woman" to make Russian Girl jealous and make Russian Girl delete photos of them together, which she denied. What do you guys think?

The weekend after she went to Riga - alone.

Next weekend (start of December) she was with him from Friday evening, but left early on Saturday and stayed home (trust me, I have "spies" on both friends lists and he lives right by my gym, so I can just drive by and look out my window to see if her car is there. He lives virtually ON the main road, so I just drive straight by without being too much of a "stalker". Thousands of cars drive the same way every day.

Russian Girl had also sent me a text in the middle of the night, with some random info. Probably just to see if she could get any interest. She didn't.

I took some of the stuff she had sent me, and had it sent to Judas' facebook account via a friend. Five days later I got an angry message from Russian Girl telling me that they didn't need any of my "great stories". This tells me they haven't spoken for five days. I sent this on a Saturday, and only on Thursday was there any reaction. So it seems that their contact is limited to setting dates for meetings (short ones) and not much else.
Also Judas had started tagging himself in various places with "old, ugly woman" and even that he went to the cinema with some young black girl. I was thinking that this was about to go to hell for them.

That weekend I could see that Russian Girl was sitting at home all weekend, as she was "fiddling" with her facebook account every day. None of them pressed "like" on each others photos (that I could see), but Russian Girl pressed "like" on the page of the local community where Judas lives. I was thinking he might have deleted her, and that she pressed this site to make me think she was moving there as a substitute for pressing like on his shit.

This Friday (the 20th), my restraining order went out of date, so I sent a long shit list to Judas. I showed him how Russian Girl had sent me about 17 000 messages during the months we were together, which is about 80 messages a day. How she was telling me she wanted to see me every day, and not just every weekend, how intense she was even after meeting me two times etc.
I also showed him all that she had opened up all messages she had sent etc.

He sent me a text messages saying that my "imagination was amazing" that I was making a fool of myself, that he had seen all of this before and that it meant nothing, and that he and Russian Girl was in a relationship.
I told him it was strange that she then had un-liked all of his public photos on facebook, had been active on Match.com and had sent me a message saying that "many men are interested in me, and my child doesn't bother them, but I am not ready yet", which means she still has a broken heart.
He didn't answer.

The next day Saturday she was not there when I drove to the gym, but while I was working out, she posted a photo of Judas at the gym and tagged herself. So it seems she had changed her plans, driven to him late in the evening, just to "put me in my place". I don't think they had planned to be together this weekend.
A friend of her asked if she used to train there (as she lives 45 minutes away). First 25 hours later - after no reaction from me - Russian Girl wrote:

"No usually in <her home town>, but I hope to soon change the place.
There is a great personal trainer her " She used the smiley with its tongue out of the mouth for the last sentence, though:

I am thinking that she wrote this just to irritate me, and make me worried that she might move to be near him. But since I know a lot more than those to idiots think, I don't believe it. Do I need to worry?

I had planned one last message to Judas, before pulling back from them completely and it went something like this:

"Of course she dropped everything in her hands to come now, so that I won't "win".
But ask yourself - do you get 50-100 messages from her every day?
Is she nagging you every week about moving in together?
If not, she is not nearly as interested in you as she was in me - plain and simple.

You are nothing but a rebound guy she is using to get attention and because she has no friends in Norway and is bored in the weekends (2 of 3 left her after they saw what she did to me).

If you want to "put me in my place" you can post a photo from the National Registry that shows she has moved in to you, with her son.

And no matter what happens, you would have never met Russian Girl if I had wanted her, so you are just desperately trying to win the love of a girl who was never good enough for me in the first place. So no matter what, you are nothing but used toilet paper compared to me, you pathetic wife beating, junkie scum"

I then saw that she had opened a week old photo that said "if you love something let it go - if it comes back, kill it!"
And this Thomas that she told me she was going on vacation with when I was in Italy had pressed like.
I told Judas to read what I had sent him and said that this is the exact name I used, but I thought he had deleted her. But now you can see on his list of recently added friends that they are friends again.
Strange that your "girlfriend" is now catching up with and old flame, don't you think?

He then tried to send her a message saying that I wrote something to him, but by accident he sent it to me. Every single word was spelled wrong except the word "now": "ScandinavianViking send my Messanger now".

So I lauged again to him and pointed this out and told him that they must have a very deep and meaningful relationship when they can't even communicate due to his lack of English skills. He didn't reply.

Today (24th of December) Russian girl posted a photo of herself (publically) with the text "Christmas is a time for forgetting the past and thinking about the present". No it's not!
Judas changed his cover photo. Both pressed "like" on each others's photo.

My theory
1) She is a very impulsive and emotional drama queen, so going to bed with this loser is something she regretted.

2) But when the damage was done, and I wouldn't take her back, she kept seeing him because he was like a dog begging for her love. Meeting someone else was not an option, as they would understand that her lack of enthusiasm was due to a broken heart that wasn't healed yet, and also she could probably talk a lot about me and how horrible I am for not wanting a relationship without Judas understanding that she still has some feelings. A man with a normal brain would pick up on this.

Also sleeping with another beta as a rebound guy wouldn't give her any attention from me, which would be boring. She wants revenge.

3) When I stopped giving her attention, she seems to have lost interest. If I keep ignoring them both, this whole thing will be over between them in a couple of months.
I due however project that there will be a spike in interest on both sides for a short while now, as they have a common enemy. This is why I posted this shit to him this weekend, because I know he'll be gone for the holidays, so hopefully they will have lost some of their "spunk" during this week or so. I'd hate for him to get laid more than necessary.

4) She is not going to take her son out of school and move, especially not to his apartment. If she had moved to his local area, even in a different apartment, it would also look strange in front of the other men she is flirting with on-line as they know she has a (male) friend there. They would thinkn there was a relationship going on there and lose interest.

5) She will never in a million years sink so low as to get into a relationship with a completely retarded man who she can't communicate with, who sits friendless in his apartment all week without working, who has beaten at least three women I know of, and probably many more, who doesn't give a damn about any of his own children, who stabs his friends in the back and even her (he tried to put the blame for their meeting on her too), who has serious mental problems, who is a junkie, and a welfare swindler, and butt beta ugly dwarf.

And if she hasn't changed her relationship status and had a relationship with him now after three months - other than being a free weekend prostitute - it won't happen in the future either. In fact she had dropped almost all contact for six weeks, just met him once in a while to keep him warm, so to speak. And even he is starting to see other girls - the few that want anything to do with him. Am I right?

6) Being totally silent now is the best strategy. Agree?

Wow

I expected "April fools" or "written by a 16 year old" at the end of all that.

I mean this respectfully, but you, your friends, this Russian chick are all fucked up. Woman beaters, child prostitute fuckers, facebook stalking...man...shit. You fucked this chick and obviously didn't care about her. How can you be mad she met someone else? And then you guys do all this drama and craziness. Really? You got a restraining order and stalked the hell out of some chicks page. I honestly felt sick reading that shit.

1) The woman beating, child prostitution was all HIM of course.

2) She is posting stuff publically for me to see it and I gathered it all to stuff it in Judas' face - I will not let some moron like him think he can "win" something he has "stolen" from me. Not for any other reason. I have not contacted her in ages, she is the one contacting me (if anything).

3) I am not mad she met anyone else, in fact nothing would make me more happy than to see her meet ANYONE BUT HIM! He went behind my back and betrayed me, and she has NO RIGHT to screw a friend of mine. I was TOTALLY honest about us having an open relationship, and she was also free to date others!

4) The restraining order was by HIM, she NEVER contacted the police, even if Judas pushed her like hell to do it to "back him up".
And the police never even bothered to call me in for questioning, as they saw Judas' long list of convictions and I could prove that he had threatened me first and I just stood my ground!

5) Two of her three closest friends have come to me and said they wanted nothing more to do with her. These were HER friends - so if I was so horrible, how come her own friends ditch her? None of mine has done this, even though they ....ahem...think I am being a bit to obsessed! Well - I'm not going to let a worthless creep who belongs in the electric chair to spit in my face without consequences!!

6) Also, I don't give a crap about her - my only goal here is to make sure Judas is being humiliated and learns a lesson!

....even though she did lie to my face about them not having sex, about how she would never ever see him again, etc. I will not do anything at all to her. I am just ignoring her, knowing well that she misses me more than I miss her. She has also "raped" her self enough times, by forcing herself to be with the most disgusting, pathetic and outright evil scum in the entire slum.

I dislike when people have a friend, fall out and then talk about all the horrible things the friend did/was. You were friends with a teenage prostitute fucking, woman beating loser. This is a reflection of who you are if you even entertained someone like this as a friend or associate. And you were fucking a girl who had sex with an actual dog? Call me crazy, but that would have been a dealbreaker right there. You can't have these people in your life and then when shit falls out act like "wow, they are so disgusting" because you were their friend while they were doing all that shit.

Public or not you were checking this girl and guys fb like crazy. You dumped her, didn't want her so you shouldn't have even cared. I'm a proponent of bros before hos, but this doesn't sound like you even liked her. So what if he fucks her? If my ex dated a friend of mine, sure I'd consider that fucked up on both parts, but I ain't caring if some chick I used to fuck goes with a friend.

Concerning the restraining order; you put yourself in a dumb situation over an old piece of ass. Not even a serious gf. You could have been beaten or arrested over some chick you didn't care about. Let's say you a fight had occurred when you went to his place. If you had gotten arrested would you feel cool telling the guy in the cell next to you you fought over some ho? Is jail or physical harm really worth it for some girl you fucked and didn't care about?

You stalked this girl's fb, public or not, and sent msgs through others REPEATEDLY. Why waste all that time and energy for some ho YOU WERE JUST FUCKING? If it were me, I'd have blocked her msgs, deleted them from fb and moved on. She's gone, she's gone. Dude is fucking or hanging out with a girl you used to fuck. So what? And driving by and looking out for her car? Why even care?

Well, we were working out at the same gym, and I NEVER knew he had beaten a woman until after this shit all happened. The thing with the 16 year old prostitute, I did react to, but this was also something he told me a couple of months before this all started.

I never wanted to have anything to do with him outside the gym/powerlifting scene. I did however visit him a couple of times when he was sitting alone drinking and being alone after the break-up with his ex. This was because I felt pitty for him and didn't know how horrible he was.
Yeah...I don't think there was any penetration there....but still, yeah.
She told me this only a short while before this all happened too. Not the kind of thing I girl will admit on the first date. And yeah, it takes a dog...ahem...lover to be able to have such a disgusting...thing as him in bed.
He is not a friend of mine, he spent weeks stabbing me in the back, doing everything he could to sabotage our (open) relationship so he could benefit from it. Being too stupid to understand that if a girl is madly in love with someone, she can't just flip a switch and get feelings for a retarded dwarf on welfare.
And I did of course like her and care about her, I just didn't want to share the rest of my life with her. And I was open about that.
I am the kind of guy that would rather go down fighting, rather than being disrespected like that.
The problem is that I have a university degree and a job that requires a license, and I'd hate to lose my $250 000 yearly salary over this, so I had to restrain myself.
1) I knew she was stalking mine, and using her FB to post little "messages" for me to read, so yeah, it's hard not to check up on it. Also to see how my strategy of ignoring them both had been working. Seems she lost interest almost instantly. Good! Let's keep ignoring them and see what happens! I am 99% sure he will fuck this up all by himself (like everything else in his life), but I need some feedback on my questions, though.
1) I have blocked and deleted her, but I have another profile.
2) I am already driving that way to the gym.
3) I care, because it gives me pleasure to see justice (him getting dumped and having his feelings hurt), and it angers me to see injustice (him getting wild sex from a girl that I "trained" to be that good in bed, as a REWARD for being a complete asshole)!

I'm not trying to be a dick when I say this...

But you're an attention seeking little bitch who's psychotically possessive. Fix yourself first. Clean up the bullshit you bring to the table.

OK, thanks for the input. Doesn't do me much good, though.