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O.K. Some work to do here...
Mistake #1 - Do not follow "a method", mix different parts of different methods and find out what works for you. I will give you an exemple based on my personal experience: Some methods claim you should behave like an arrogant cock, be the center of attention, loud, obnoxious, etc. That would never work for me because that is simply not who I am. I am a refined gentleman, the kind of guy who holds the door open for a lady, wears tailor made suits, drives a restored 1960's Mercedes and asks for a Chivas Royal Salute while smoking a Cohibas. That's just who I am, so I applied some basic priciples for different methods, and shaped them to my natural personality.
That is what you should do. You do not follow a method because that would be shaping yourself to be someone else. Instead, apply what you have learned to become an improved version of yourself.
Mistake #2 - You are being too needy. So what if a girl turns away from you? Do you have any idea how many guys hit on her every single night? And they all keep pushing until she talks back. Make the difference! You initiated, good, and if she turns around or does not respond, walk away and hit on the the nearest HB. Then the original girl will have to qualify herself to you, not the other way around. Do not chase her, make her chase you.
Mistake #3 - Work on your inner game. No amount of methods, moves, openers, lines, pheromone cologne or bull shark testosterone will do you any good if your body lenguage does not back it up. You are constantly SPAM non verbal, uncounscious cues about how you really feel, and girls are way more intuitive than guys. So until you convince yourself you are the shit and anyone who has the previlege to contemplate your presence should bow down in awe, you are going nowhere. Confidence goes a long way. I know it's hard (at least for me it was), but you just have to set your mind to it.
Mistake #4 - You "wouldn't entertain" a girl who just wants to be friends? WTF, dude! Friendship between men and women is just postponed sex. Sooner or later, it will probably happen. If you are friends, you don't need to build confort, etc. 70% of your work is already done, and if there ever was a glimpse of atraction, you are probably just a good escalation away from fucking her. And even if she is not interested, do you have any idea how many hot friends she may have? You are cutting off an entire batch of potential partners just because "you wouldn't entertain it"... She may even become your wing, and seeing you interact with other girls may even turn the entire situation in your favour and make her interested. And even if you can't get her in bed, there is a sentence I use often: "Cash, ammo and friends, you can never have too much". You never know when someone may be useful to you.
And finally, Samuel Beckett once wrote "No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better". Remember that. Every mistake you do now, is a mistake you will not do again. Every scar is a lesson, treat it as such and with time and persistence you will eventually get there.
I was basically doing that (making her chase). I mean I kept re-initiating conversation a few times but then I just walked off. I mean, these were girls I was sitting next to, for example, or waiting next to at the bar. I tried to get them to put something back into the conversation by letting conversation die (for example after they give their name I was just saying stuff like "cool, nice to meet you" and looking at them expectantly so they'd ask me back)... But as soon as a tall guy or more handsome guy walked by I became totally invisible.
Also for the record I just don't see any benefits to platonic female friendship whatsoever. I made out with her before but she was drunk and I can never get her to come for drinks with me. She may have hot friends, but it's irrelevant because everywhere I go there are hot girls and I can open them easy, I don't need somebody to introduce me... I like approaching solo too.
THAT SAID, there were a couple of girls who asked me to "tell them a bit about myself" which is an IOI right? But yeah, those were the girls who stopped paying any attention to me when they saw a better looking or taller guy.