I know you probably don't want to read all this, but I could really use the advice. It'd be tremendous.

I've known this girl for awhile. She was attracted to me 2 yrs ago for sure (and I believe still is) and I led her to believe I wasn't interested because I knew she wanted a relationship (I did not). 6 Months ago she left the country to study and came back 2 months ago and now I'm MORE attracted to her than ever before and actually do want a relationship.

We've been hanging out a lot; she'll come to the parties at my house and we'll get lunch together but I haven't really been able to escalate (could use some pointers on escalating while grabbing food). I'm afraid our situation has started turning towards friends bc of this lack of flirtation/escalation (My natural game is cocky/funny and light negs if it matters). My organization has a date party coming up in a few weeks and I want to go with her. I have to ask her soon and I want to make sure she understands we wouldn't be going just as friends. So how do I ramp up the sexual tension so she understands this in time? I'm confident in my ability to be able to transition this to a relationship as long as this party works out well and we both understand were more than friends. If I don't make a move soon I'd regret that time we lost before she moves 10hrs away.

If she's leaving I don't think its a good idea to have interest in a relationship. It's just a lot of wasting time and energy.. I think you're just caught up in your feelings and because of this you aren't thinking logically. It appear that the dynamic has shifted; first she liked you, you didn't like her as much.. Now the tables has turned and you like her, so she doesn't like you as much.

I can promise you that she can feel these girly emotions you're giving off. She wanted you before because you DIDN'T want a relationship. So how do you get her to want you again? Be the guy you once were.. You're emotional now.. Its not attractive.

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I know how hard it is to let an oportunity slip and all the "what if's" you will have to deal with if you do not act now, so this is what I would do if I were in your place. It's also what I should have done 6 years ago if I knew about PUA back then...

First off, forget the "let her know we will be going as more than just friends" stuff. That puts way too much pressure. Ask her for that thing, and either go as friends and escalate there, or escalate in the meantime and use that oportunity to consolidate your position.

Your game plan shoud be simple: instead of luch ask her for something else, a night out, a drink after work, a concert, whatever. If it helps, pick a place with sofas, great to do some kino, unlike tables wich pretty much just get in the way. Isolate. Escalate.

This is the best escalation guide I know, so here you go: majik-s-guide-to-kino-escalation-vt163160.html (kudos to Majik, by the way)

Let us know how it went.

I see your point that she can tell im more interested and I have no problem with that, however I disagree that I am giving off girly emotions. Could you give some examples of common things that would give this vibe off? Aside from us hanging out more often now I think that's the only thing that has really changed from before, but there could definitely be some more subtle things i'm missing. Maybe I tease her more now than before.

You need to set the frame from the start. So ummmm your going to need a time machine for 2 years ago.

If there is still this spicy sexual chemistry between you two, then its very easy to escalate. Its simply, just go from hug then later, peck on the cheek then later hold hands then later kiss.

If you do this then you'll know based on weather she resists you if shes attracted to you or not.

But please man, no more 'Girl next door' problems. In pickup, it would be highly advisable you learn pickup 'in general' by picking up a volume of other chicks. To focus on a chick who havn't even really 'picked' up isn't going to get you anywhere in the long run which is what pickup is all about - long term progress.

Anyway, you probably didn't want to hear that answer. I tend to answer based on the wider context of the question isntead of the meager content. Anyway good luck dude, I hope you learn something from this experience.

-goundy

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Thanks for the advice man. Every experience can and should be taken as a learning opportunity. Onto your response: I was considering putting this in the original topic because I knew someone would bring it up. I am currently fuckbuddies with a different girl with 1 other in the rotation. I always try to play the field so I never get hung up on one girl. I've been with many girls, girls I slept with but didn't want to date. I like meeting new people so this mentality would continue if it did or didn't work out. Felt like I should clarify that.

If you are really interested in her, then ask her out. Unless, it will be too late and you will regret if she leaves before expressing your love.

I decided i'm gonna wait a little bit before talking to her next because we've been hanging out a lot, then get lunch with her and ask her to the date party. I'm going to make it known it's a date party and if she comes that means she knows whats up and we can go from there. Do you guys think this is a good idea? Wait a bit and then ask her?

If she makes up an excuse i'm assuming she only sees us as friends now. I have a backup girl I know will say yes anyways.