hey guys
new here, and i know similar questions have been asked already but none of the previous threads gave me the answers ive been looking for.

this probably started around a year ago. i began attracting some seriously beautiful women and id get the kiss or their number and they were always down to see me again.
but after every day 2, theyd go pretty much completely cold. was honestly so confused.. and the more it happened the more i was in my own head causing it to keep happening.
i came to the conclusion that i was trying too hard to build attraction by always bantering and being cocky.
i then met a cute 6.5 who to be honest was a bit below my standards. the day 2 went really well and we had this insane connection- mostly because she was chatty so i barely had to try keep the conversation going. at this point i went full AFC and thought "hey this girls sticking around, lets just make her my girlfriend" and i did. just like that i was out of this pua world. well fast forward half a year and im single again.
its been 3 weeks since the break up and im lost. the first night i went out i managed to number-close 5 girls, 3 of which were pretty darm solid. one stuck out a bit more than the others (typical beta oneitis sh@t i know) and she received most of my attention. girl is a solid 8.5 party girl who's very tomboyish- refreshing change of pace for me considering the ex was ultra feminine and codependent. anyway i set up a day two for saturday afternoon and she agreed. friday then came along and she wanted to do something then with both our groups of friend and i went. we aspent time together and although i was off at first because im so out of practice i bounced back and it went really well. k closed and we agreed to see each other saturday afternoon as arranged. i arrived at the day 2 location knowing i had to do something different from before- i had always been stuck at attraction without any comfort. well i think i did the opposite this time around. i focused on comfort and i could swear it was like i saw her losing attraction to me. long story short she went cold too and it has me extremely down
in hindsight its probably the best thing to happen to me in a while because its likely i would have tried to date her because of my afc tendencies.
heres what i KNOW i did wrong that i need to avoid next time:
date lasted too long (nearly 5 hours)
couldnt get her talking about herself enough- conversation would stop and start and there were many moments where i would just awkwardly stare at her until she asked me a question ( i was trying to play it off like i was just cool and collected but she knew i just didnt have any questions to ask her)
didnt lead- she took control from time to time and im sure i failed tons of shit tests
revealed too much about myself
kino escalation sucked (whenever i would try to touch her she would very slightly move away so i couldnt kino very easily but this started BEFORE saturday while she was very into me, and i even kissed her- dpes anyone know why a girl would act like that when shes interested?)

well thats the story. what i want to know is, how do i build a deep emotional connection without completely killing attraction? how do you get to the point where a girl is doing 90 percent of the talking? i tried to cold read and ask emotionally based questions, but yeah right now i just feel like a failure and im realizing this is becoming a terrible pattern.
thx in advance

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