| For all those who cold approach but suffer from AA, here's a tip to make you get into social God mode with easiness, so that you can approach dozens of sets consistently every night.
First you have to accept one thing. The way you are at this very moment isn't very fun, and certainly not very attractive. You probably have been dealing with work or school all day. At work, you have been focused on some task, or planning a project, or taking orders from your boss, or interacting with clients, You are stuck in professional mode. If you've been at home doing nothing, you're stuck in relaxing mode. Or in school you have rules you have to follow, and so on. It is likely that you're in one of these states right now, and this "you" is not the fun you that can go up to girls, have a good time with them, and express himself however he pleases.
Meaning that if you were forced to go to a bar or a park right now for a pickup bootcamp you will have a VERY tough time cold approaching. This because you are in a socially conditioned state right now. Basically, right now, unless you are already approaching on a daily basis, cold approaching will seem extremely weird.
In order for you to feel comfortable approaching, you must snap out of this state and enter the non-socially conforming state. You must become your fun self. I'm not saying you must change into another personality, but you must get rid of the socially imposed barriers that allow you to be a functioning member of society, but kill your game.
There is a quick way to rid yourself from those barriers so that you can stop making a big deal about approaching and actually even have a lot of fun approaching.
I'm going to share with you the way which has worked for me on a consistent basis. No matter how bad a mood or how stiffled i feel at the start of the sarging session.
You've probably heard before that your mind is a muscle, so just like you can not jump from sitting at work all day to maxing out at the the bench press at the gym without a proper warm up, you can not just switch gears and go from boring, stiffled, or socially comnorming, to your fun, uninhibited self in a matter of seconds. It can be done, don't get me wrong, but its so hard to do that I can't even stand thinking about it. Plus I like to be comfortable, and I like to take the easiest and most efficient path.
In the same way, if you want to be successful at approaching hot girls, you must warm up into that fun uninhibited self that women are attracted to.
If you already know about warm up sets you should still read on, because many guys who already understand the concept of warm ups seem to be confused. They use hot girls to "warm up", and a lot of times, specially if the set doesn't go well, instead of getting more uninhibited, they become more stiffled, they get more in their head. They start thinking about what they should've done or said. They also become exhausted after a number of sets. This is the opposite of what a true warm up does, and this is how you know you're not warming up properly.
A true warm up is supposed to make you feel looser and more energetic, such that at the end of the night you're on social God mode, and you dont even want to leave because you want more, if you havent take a girl home.
In order to avoid this, you must warm up the proper way. Again lets go back to the gym analogy and think of the hotter girls as the heavier dumbbells, you do not warm up with the heaviest dumbbells. A warm up consists of stretching your muscles and using minimal weight. if you see the heaviest dumbbell, you do not go and lift it, this is because A) you will not be able to lift it properly yet, and B) Your muscles will not be fully ready and will get tired quicker.
In the same way, a warm in pick up has to be done only by using throwaway sets. The sets you do not care about, such as guys and ugly sets. You open only the sets that you do not want to hook. These are the sets that will put you into that "I dont give a fuck" mentality. You IGNORE the hot girls. You do not want to approach any sets that make you think about the best opener or perfect timing. Open them only once you're properly warmed up.
For example,for me a typical warm up depends on my mood. If i'm already in a sociable, fun mood, then i can jump into semi-difficult sets right away. If i'm not in the mood at all, i start with the easiest of sets, a lot of times its the hired guns, or I ask a chode some random question, then approach an ugly set, then cuter girls and mixed sets and keep moving up in difficulty.
The whole time, I'm not approaching anybody who I perceive as high value. After a few sets, all the sets that seemed high value before I now perceive them as as same value as me and they are not intimidating at all, so that im able to fully express myself around them.
In fact my only goal when i go out sarging is to warm up properly, because that takes care of my mood, and when I'm in a good mood, I transfer that emotion to the girl, and sparks will fly. But if I don't warm up properly and i start to engage in conversation with my wing or just wait around for the perfect set or the perfect opportunity, then it will just be a waste of time.
But you will not accomplish any of this if you can not accept that the person you're right at this very moment reading and analyzing this and other posts is not able to properly engage any hot set.
Accept this as a fact and you will find the motivation to warm up the proper way.
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