My girlfriend was over the other day and she told me the following:

"I had a dream about (her best friend's boyfriend's friend) wearing a suit on a talk show, I texted him and told him"

"He lost weight recently supposedly he used to be fat, he is funny, you would like him"

"I have dreams about you sometimes"

Then he texted her back and she did not hide it


So the day progresses, and nothing happens, then I check her phone later on and it says:

"I had a dream about you blah blah"

Him: Well now that I lost weight I can model the suit for you"

Her: I would enjoy that

Her: (stupid joke-like emoticons like lipstick, model stuff, bikini ect)

That was the end of the convo

(my girlfriend always uses the word ENJOY when she is horned up...aka "I am enjoying your pictures now" or "I would enjoy (sex act) very much")

Would she have said "you would like him" if she was truly interested in him?

Hmm, dicey. Make her cum tonight

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"We should have a threesome together" should have been your answer and see what her response would have been.

But I wouldn't worry about it too much at this point. She won't bring him up again (most likely) if she's interested in him.

On another note, are you keeping your pickup tools sharp?

She has never had an orgasm by herself or with a guy, and stops me using the vibrator on her when she is about to cum and said "whoaa baby steps"....we are working on it


So she isn't used to cumming....does this change your perspective on this

Are you saying I NEED to because this is a horrible sign from her? What are you trying to say here?

Chill. Its something to keep an eye on, not something to freak out over. I'm going from your behavior here. It seeks like you care a lot about this girl. So just keep an eye on this. But right now its nothing to worry about.

If I see that their conversation continues, what should I do? Do I tell her my boundaries are being crossed? Get rid of exclusivity? This is a relationship of over 1 year

She still wants sex all the time, initiates contact, friendly with my family, futures me, ect

Don't let this become a bigger problem in your mind than it really is.

If I was you, I would start to freak out. But because I am not you, I can be objective and say do not freak out!

Try to seduce her, surprise her. Make her feel special. Do things that you usually do not do. Give it a week and see if she is still texting him. Do not freak out or shout at her at all. Keep it cool.

If after a week, and you made some efforts for her, you see she is still texting to him. Then I'd do AMOG and go talk to the guy and ask him what are his intention with your girlfriend, stay cool, no need to fight though. Especially that if you do, she will know.

If they are still texting each other after that, then I would run the exactly same game that she has started with that guy, but with another girl. I'm pathetic and I all the time feel I need to give a payback to people that hurts me.

After all, this is only my opinion, listen your heart, he might know better what you should do. But I would suggest you go pick up a girl somehow and start texting her. Let your gf know about it.

NB: This all thing can also be a game for her to let you know that you should pay more attention to her. That's why I told you to spend the whole week working hard on her. And seriously... if you can't make cum your girl after a year, maybe it is time to find another one where you would enjoy sex better.

Just saying. Sorry though. I just went out from a 1y relationship so I know it sucks.

I am freaking out! She is coming over today. Should I tell her I know she is just trying to make me jealous? Keep in mind guys that she has complained that I DO THIS too often with her.

Well, she came over today, and I saw nothing new at all in her phone. She has a lock on it so she would have no reason to delete messages (of course I know the password tho) and there were no recent messages from him.

Someone had said that if she doesn't bring him up again, then she is interested...well she did bring him up:

I asked her if any of her best friend's boyfriend's friends worked out, and she said "well he doesn't, he doesn't, and that kid _______ *smiles*(the one in question) supposedly lost weight/worked out." I kinda took this as the kid is goofy and she laughs when she thinks of him, since even the dream she had was goofy and she laughed as she told me.

Then later in the night she brought him up briefly again when we were talking about dreams but very matter of fact.

She spends every weekend with me or working...oh and another thing I think I made her cum tonight....we used a vibrator on her clit and afterwards she was laughing/smiling continuously, kept hugging and kissing me, saying her vagina felt amazing, kept laughing in disbelief

Like another poster said it could be a way of getting you to pay more attention to her. It could be some sort of weird shit test.

Whatever you do don't overeact.

I'll admit its a strange situation. She might be trying to ween you onto the idea of a 3sum, i dont know why else she would keep bringing him up and complimenting him to you. That's what my gut says.

It might also be some sort of revenge thing, did you piss her off, are flirty with other girls?

I'm taking stabs in the dark here because I've never been through this myself and never heard a similar situation before.

It could also be her way of breaking up with you, kind of bring this guy up a lot, and when she says "I'm gonna date the other guy" it won't be so much of a shock. Another sort of odd weening process.

Or, could be weening you onto the idea of an open relationship.

Either way, sounds like shes setting up for something... My money is on 3sum.

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Well she had been complaining recently that I was bringing up girls to get her jealous. Last night we had a talk about boundaries and said that we both agreed that texting at length with someone who isn't a friend is crossing the line. We talked about how important respect is too.

But last night I kind of tried to get her to bring him up by asking if any of this specific guy's friends worked out (he is one of those friends) to see if she'd bring him up. Then I brought up dreams again. So I fished for it. She didn't keep bringing him up.

We have discussed 3somes in the past and she was opposed to the idea to some degree. The part that has me concerned is that he is the friend of her gf's boyfriend, meaning that it might appeal to her the idea of couples. We have hung out with the best friend and her boyfriend, but I am not close with him.

Keep in mind also that neither one of us has said I love you yet, and it has been over a year, but we also have this pride thing between us. She has said "I care about you ALOT", "mean so much to me", "you are MINE" ect.

What do you think?

I don't think she is up to a 3some at all. If she has issue to cum then usually girls do not think about it. I don't know if you went anal with her or not. But if you didn't and she never did, then 3some is excluded.

It seems that you deal with the situation quite well. Do not bring the subject up again with her unless she does. I bet it was just a shit test for you. She just wants more of your attention. Carry on making her cum, giving her more pleasure than she gives you and you'll keep her as long as you want.