| Okay, here's the deal. Met a girl (HB 9.5) at work at the beginning of the month. This is a long-distance thing. I got her phone number. Waited 2 days, called her. Great conversation. Talked several times for relatively long periods. We totally clicked. Agreed to meet a little less than a week after first conversation for early morning coffee. It was only going to be for an hour or so. Ended up bouncing to breakfast place and then into city park. Ended up spending seven or eight hours together. Went by in a heartbeat. Lots of good conversation. One important thing to mention: we're both very Christian and I'm in the middle of a divorce from my wife so I'm technically still married, so we agreed no physical anything right now. On our "date", she gave me a bunch of IOI's. Lots.
Back to long-distance game. Talked on the phone a couple more times for long periods. Then, this past Sunday night, about two hrs into the conversation, she tells me there's something she needs to tell me. "She better sit down" she says. So, she explains that right now, she doesn't think she can be anything more than friends with me. She says she just went through an intense experience with a guy in December who was perfect for her but then it ended badly with him not calling her after a two or three weeks. She says she knows it's stupid but it really is effecting her and her ability to commit. Okay, so I ask a bunch of questions trying to read between the lines as to what she's really trying to say making me very likely appear needy and insecure (big mistake!). We didn't really talk much over the next few days. Then, last night, we agreed to meet after work at about 11 pm. We went for coffee and then ended up Denny's. For about 2.5 hrs, the conversation flowed sooo smoothly. Then, she asks me, "So how do you think you can be a friend to me?" I tell her I don't know what she's getting at. I try to play it off. Tell her to relax. She presses and we end up essentially rehashing our previous conversation. She tells me she's attracted to me but she just can't be more than friends right now and she doesn't know when, if ever, she can offer more. Personally, I think she is sincerely confused about how she feels about relationships in general right now along with I think she got pretty burned in her previous serious relationship.
Okay, so this sucks. Yes, I freakin' have one-itis over this girl. I know I'm a chump for this girl and it blows. My plan right now is to not call her for a while and see what happens. As sad and pathetic as it sounds, it's difficult to not pick up the phone and try to call her. Since we are long-distance it's hard to make her jealous or anything like that. One thing I considered is asking her if she does MySpace and then directing her to my profile where I have 40-some friends, most of them pretty hot girls. I just started a few weeks ago. Anyway, I thought her looking at all of those girls as my friends might incite a little jealousy plotline. Good idea? Anyway, I totally want to hear what your solutions are for this problem. I DO totally dig this chick and would love to recover, so please help me out bro's.
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