hey alright fellas, i'm new to the forum, but i've been reading it for a while and i must say, there's a lot of good info here. I'm normally reluctant to ask for help, but i'm in an interesting situation... before i begin, i assure you all that i'm approaching many girls and am not experiencing one-itis. you see, i like many of you out there, started reading getting into this 'secret society' because i'd like to get over what i believe was my first love (pair-bond lol)...

on to my question/scenerio: i'm a sophomore in college & we just recently started our spring classes. i'm taking a psych class w/2 of my good female friends... anyway a few days ago i saw a girl that is absolutely adorable (8 to 8.5) & sweet who sits by herself, so the next class period i sit by her. we get to talking, she gets to laughing, &, at first, seems quite receptive. my problem is that she is a freshman from a small town who is very quiet, very shy & very naive. after talking with her i realized (she didn't say this, but you guys know when you can just tell) that she's never even had a boyfriend before. well, today i came in (i'm naturally an upbeat person, by the way) and was like:
"Hey (girl), what's up? How was your weekend?"
Her: "hey, okay i guess.. How are you?"
Me: "Oh, you know, as good the Monday after an awesome weekend can be"
Her: "ha ha ha"
Me: "Actually, something interesting happened to me this weekend (sidenote: this story is surprisingly true), maybe you can help me."
Her: "Oh yeah, what was it?"
Me: "Okay, my two best friends have both been really into the same girl for quite some time now. Well, recently one of them and her have started having a secret 'thing', i guess you could call it. He told me this last night because i'm one of the few people he trusts & didn't know what to do. You know normally, the natural answer would be to tell him to just go for it and the other friend would understand, but like most stories there just had to be a twist, right. haha"
Her: "ha ha Which was...?"
Me: "The girl knows they're both interested in her, but still flirts with them both like crazy..... I have no clue what to do.... What do you think."
Her: "Oh, i don't know either. ha ha ha"
Me: "Woah! You're a girl, you're supposed to be an expert in this sort of thing."
Her: "Sorry." then the lecture began.

(her lack of opinion about my true story was where my assumptions about her relationship past was, where i believe, confirmed)

so yeah, once class started, we had to do an activity involving reaction time (neuroscience crap) which required us to touch the person next to us a lot & she didn't seem wierded out by that either, but other than that her body language wasn't screaming 'interested'.

my question(s) is(are):
1.) do you guys think that this is worth it to pursue this girl given the fact that she's never even been in a relationship before?
2.) if so, how should i go about 'breaking through her shell'?

-jay

Oooooooohhhhhhhhhh...

This is a good one brother...

I can fathom some ideas, but you need more time with her...
But to get her to go with you is the challenge huh?

Hmmmmmmm...

Pondering...

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Good one man.

You:I'm going to be studying (whereever you think she lives nearby) at the library you should tagg along, its always fun when I crack open a book and smell the lead.

Her:blah blah

You: ...(I don't know depends on her answer lol).

Kino like nobodies business and sit next to her in the library, do all sorts of games with her Cube, etc... Any game Kokology. Done, and done!!! lol

fantastic conversation piece even if it was true. getting a girl for a "first relationship" has a lot of pitfalls. the first thing i would ask is how much do you want from her? are you looking for a relationship or simply some extracurricular fun? i've found that inexperienced girls can be great as people tend to pattern thier sexual style a lot on the first person you're with, so if you're looking for a casual slambot kind of thing, you can mold her into your perfect sexual partner. if you're looking for more of a relationship then here's the problem. if she's never been with anyone, and she's in college, she has HUGE romantic fantasy issues to meet. she's still looking for her knight in shining armor to come sweep her off her feet. IE, she wants all the stuff she reads about in cosmo. barf. in either case though, this is an angle you can start from. knowing she wants the trashy romance novel crap, start asking her if she reads those, or cosmo, then ask her about the tests they have, like "are you a good kisser?", then test her! if she's ok with you touching her casually, comment about how it makes you react to touch her and ratchet up the kino. "wow your skin is soft. that's sexy"etc. if she's inexperienced she wants you to take the lead. if she's in college, she's going to be begging someone to take her and show her the wonderful world of love and sex. but yes, she's going to be real hessitant. so just remember the two steps forward, one step back. remember that once she's back in your room and she starts with the LMR to crack a book for homework or check your email and freeze her out till she comes back for more. she'll say she wants all these things in romance, tell her to prove how much she wants them. when she hessitates, be like, "yeah, you just want your cosmo, come back when you want the real thing". once it's going, you can take it where you want, casual or relationship. the last thing i have to say is if it's just casual, let her know. if you're ok with dashing her dreams of a perfect romance being her first, then cool. my personal thing makes me kind of avoid girls who've never had relationships. there's usually a reason, and it's generally not just that they're shy. especially if they're cute.