Went into work today to see what checks I haven't cashed yet, and if I had any new ones. While I was walking to the back, girl I've been flirting with smiles and says whats up. I simply said whats up, since I was walking by all of my co-workers saying the same thing (its one of those jobs where everyone knows everyone). So I get in the back and have some laughs with some people back there, we have the weirdest conversations at A&F. She comes back for a while to shoot the shit, then goes back out when my manager tells everyone to scatter. So as I'm leaving, I go into each room and say later to everyone, talk a bit, the usual. Get to her, she is chatting it up with another co-worker/friend of mine. I join the convo and we are all talking around this table. This is where my question comes in. She started on the opposite side of the table, where the other kid was. Then she walks over to my side during the conversation, but with her back towards me. So she is standing in front of me/next to me, and I didn't know if this was a good or bad thing. She would face me when she or I was talking. I'm thinking she is comfortable with me, that is why she decided to come next to me, but the whole back to me thing threw me off. Any input?

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Was she doing anything? Like folding clothes or anything? That would be relevant.

There are some basic body language cues you can learn. Closer equals better, facing you is better, folding legs toward you is good, putting a barrier (folder, pillow, folded clothes, etc) between you is bad.

I don't want to be inappropriate but imagine yourself naked in missionary position staring into each others eyes, probably the most intimate you can be. Every devation from this reduces the perceived intimacy level, like the back to you would. Her back to you is technically a barrier (like the pillow). However anything that hints towards this (i.e. fingering with the clevage of her shirt, like she doesn't want it there or is drawing your attention there) is increasing the intimacy.

All of the clues work together. Back to you can be bad but if she was rubbing her ass on you (touching is good) then that's a really good sign.

Nah, she wasn't doing anything but talking with us. And now that I think about it, she was more next to me because I remember her bending over and putting her head on the clothes, doggy style like ha. And we starting talking about the gym, and she was showing how she stretches. And its funny you mention the whole cleavage thing. When we were all in the back, the conversation of "duck butter" came up (if you don't know what it is, look it up for some laughs). Then she and our manager (really hot low-twenties girl) starting talking about how their boobs weren't big enough for anything for form under them. She looked at them and then at me and laughed.

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Those are some pretty good IOIs. If she is willing to simulate sexual situations, then feel free to play along with her. You'll learn real quick if she's interested or not and you'll keep yourself from becoming her "work buddy."

The key here is to get her to talk to you alone. In a group setting those physical cues may be meant for someone else or just party girl talk for a crowd. If its just the two of you and she does it, then you're money. Same with cleavage talk.

And seriously, duck butter... they should have a diet where fat people who are hungry go read the definition of it on Urban Dictionary. There'd never be fat people.

Basically, the coworker was horny and wanted some mental stimulation. The manager caught the scent and got turned on as well. Sexual thinking is contagious within a ten feet radius. Duck butter? They were thinking DIRTY. Opportunities like this are rare. On the one hand, you are at work, and sarging at work has its drawbacks. On the other hand, you probably could've escalated verbally and see where it takes you. I'm betting with minimal effort you could've gotten her to reveal some pretty sensitive information to you.

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The whole conversation got started when my manager asked a co-worker to go get her a tea from Starbucks with one teabag. Then he laughed and she didn't know why, so we explained it to her. Then we went on to talk about duck butter, blumpkins, cleveland steamer, etc... Like I said, we have weird convos at A&F.

I was hoping to talk to her one on one, ask her how her new years went and shit. But since my buddy was already there, I just joined in on the convo. Is there any material on body language that would be a good read?

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If the girl is into you, you should be able to just feel it. But for a comprehensive list I'd do a search for IOI's, I think JSmooth once compiled a pretty good one. Mystery also talks quite a bit about it. The golden rule is proximity: if a HB somehow finds herself close to you more than once within a 2 minute window, she's interested.

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