I'm a lurker, but I decided to post and ask for some thoughts on the matter..

My friend calls me on Thursday (yesterday) and asks me to go with her to to go on the evening chair lift with her at a local ski resort. She only calls me to do stuff (ie: come over, watch a movie, get something to eat). The resort is a date SPAM where you ride all the way up the mountain wit h a blanket around you (obviously quite cold), looking at the stars, full moon, scenery etc. I think great.

We flirt pretty much the whole time, her always playfully hitting me, etc, but on the way down, towards the end she asks for my advice. I say sure. Asks if girls who are forward is attractive (answer, yes). She goes on to say about she had known this guy for a while, and she finally just gave him her number and said call me and lets do something at some point. And do you think he'll call. Obviously, I'm interested in this girl so I say no.

Why the hell would she tell me this? I think i might be in the dreaded friend zone? Don't know what to make of these mixed signals. was she trying to get a reaction from me?

when the night was over, and when she gets out of the car she tells me how we need to go to Sumo Happy (a sushi restaurant) together some time and how tonight was really fun. I know I probably should have made a move but didn't on the ride..any advice/thoughts comments.

Thanks.

Either you are just a friend, or she likes you, but doesn't want to wreck your friendship, or she was giving you an opportunity and you just sat through it. You need to learn to take advantage of opportunities because they don't come along often.

Good advice, didn't think about it all the way through like that. Any advice for the future, or how to know when to take advantage of the opportunity.

Buddy, I really hate to say it,
but you might be in the LJBF
zone. This is a really difficult
place to get out of especially
if you have known the girl for
a long time.

If not, maybe she was just trying
to get a conversation started.

The only way to find out for sure,
is to kino escalate--and I don't mean
gently tapping the shoulder lol.

I mean build up serious kino like
arm>hip>leg>etc.

Try it out; keep me informed.


Good Luck!!