| 1. Read "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It'll open your eyes to what is possible, take you through about two years of the journey, and introduce you to some of the characters in the community.
However, realize, that this is one person's path and that yours may be different. Also realize that the book is based heavily on the in-direct method, mainly using Mystery's Methods. Also realize that this is a TWO YEAR journey with 100% time and financial dedication on Style's part. Also realize that this book takes place and was written 3+ years ago, which means, there are a lot of new amazing gurus out there now who weren't mentioned in the book, and a lot of the guys that were are now very commercial.
2. Read the "Venusian Arts Handbook" (e-Book) or the "Mystery Method" (paperback) I think that this gives you the best structure of social interaction and how women work, its perfect. But its too perfect, realize that real life isn't perfect and social interaction isn't naturally structured this way. Also realize that Mystery's Methods are designed for HB9 and HB10 stripper/ADD types and not your average, down to earth, girl.
3. Join your local lair, and meet up and go out with some of the guys that you click with. Then go out with guys that you don't get along with, just so you can figure out what style you like best. briostollair has a good list, mine is socallair for los angeles
4. Find yourself. Figure out what your true goals and intentions are what type of women you actually want. Now figure out what type of method you want to follow. When you do, don't waste your time on mASF all day, I wasted 6 months posting and reading everyday and realized it was the biggest waste of time ever. Go out in field, if you need to read material, read the articles on Bristollair and you're good to go. The only people that waste their time posting on mASF are keyboard jockeys. Even the owner of fastseduction/mASF Jay aka Formhandle is a KJ that never gets laid.
If you are naturally good looking, tall, well-spoken, think about going more towards the Natural methods, such as The Approach, Juggler's Charisma Arts, David Wygant, etc.
If you are a engineer, accountant or computer guy and want to know the science and structure and use If, Then methods, then indirect methods work well for you. Venusian Arts, RSD, etc.
Then there is the direct method. If you already have a lot of strong inner-game, ie. if you think you are god's gift to women and you should be getting laid everyday already but somehow aren't try going direct with Badboy, Shark, etc.
If you are a minority or want to specialize with a guy you relate to, there are guys like Asian Playboy.
If you have absolutely zero social skills, you need a lot of field experience just to catch up and be NORMAL and non creepy. But its okay! You need to get through it.
Here is what's going to happen.
You start with zero, or negative social skills. So you don't get rejected or offend women because you don't talk to them in the first place.
Then, you start approaching and practicing....which will creep out women and make them uncomfortable. But only after this step of catching up to normal guys will you be able to advance.
But then you because normal, and the results will be positive. It'll take months or years to catch up and just be decent. So expect to be worse before you get better.
On average, attractive women start getting approached 3x a day since they hit puberty, which means 21 a week, 84 a month, and then about 1,000 social interactions with the opposite sex trying to hook up a year.
So if you don't even have 1,000 approaches and social interactions with women, you are at a 14 yr old level. So get out there and get your 1,000 approaches under your belt!
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