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PostPosted: Tue Sep 18, 2007 9:47 am 
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Hey

Well, Ive been reading around the forums.
I get the general idea of negs but can someone please tell me the exact way it works in a professionals words. e.g mystery.

I am a very sarcastic person as it is. In the classroom a girl would say "omg where am I" and i would state the country, school, and classroom. Or if a girl says anything generally stupid, I take the shit out of it. E.G the one before, cept her friend that sits next to her laughs, Cept I don't know where to take it from there. I keep bagging the other girl, but then I turn mean and her friend start saying that was mean.

I need to start negging the stupid girl's friend. How do I do this without making it too mean?

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PostPosted: Tue Sep 18, 2007 2:03 pm 
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Negs aren't supposed to be mean. If you are being mean, then you are being counterproductive. A neg is a neutral comment that when a person thinks about it feels like their value has been lowered, but without actually saying anything that is truly mean. ie "Is that your real hair? Oh...well it looks nice :wink: " You didn't say anything that a person can really feel mad about, but they still feel like their status has been lowered. The best negs are said with a shit-eating-grin for the punch line I find.


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But you see, with my sarcastic personality, anything that comes out of my will come off as mean and counterproductive.

Meh, I'll give it a go and see how it goes


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So fix your personality. I used to have a hard time with that as well. I was trying to be CF and it worked half the time and the other half I was getting glares or slapped for being a dick. I don't know exactly what I did to change it, so I can't really help you out in a general way, but part of it I think was that I was being defensive a lot of the time when people would bust my balls and so I was a bit too edgy. You need to know when to be CF and when to just be funny. The best defense is often a good offense, but the best offense isn't a good defense typically.


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