Full field report of my first night with this girl is here:
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Second night (saturday), I texted her saying I was around the same area we first met, wasn't sure if I was gonna go out. She texts me twice back and calls to ask if I want to meet her. I think this is so definitely on.
She ditches her friends at a club and comes out to meet me (again, I'm thinking this is so definitely on). We goto another club, get some drinks, dance. I make sure to kino plow from the start, and get the k-close on the dancefloor in 5-10 minutes after we get there.
When we're off the dancefloor just talking, I sometimes open sets around us, like when we're playing this roulette game they have, I open the 3-set of HBs who are playing and have a good time with them. I wanted to see if this girl might get jealous and start trying to win me over more. She basically just went quiet, let me talk to them (I did make introductions and everything) and then waited till we were alone again before talking. Didn't think I created much of a jealousy plotline...
She was totally cool getting a cab back to mine, and I assumed that tonight was definitely the night. We went back, kissed, etc. I picked her up and literally carried her to the bedroom (to avoid any chance of her resisting) and we were on the bed. She said "not tonight." I said "ok, we'll see." I got my shirt off, and although we were clearly escalating, she wouldn't let me take her dress off. I did a freeze out, went to my computer to change the music, came back a couple of minutes later, started a pillow fight, grabbed her, started again. Got the dress off eventually. "Not tonight" she says again. "We'll see" I reply. Long story short this continued until all clothes were painstakingly removed. EVERY step was a struggle. She wouldn't let me touch her anywhere or take off anything without me getting her really aroused first and then doing it slyly while she was too turned on or her hands were too distracted to stop me, otherwise she would.
I managed to finger her through her panties until she was really aroused, but as soon as I went to finally slip them off, she held on tight. Finally got the panties off but still she wouldn't let me. After a long time of fighting her every step of the way on this, I finally got too tired and we slept, once again, without ever having sex.
I DON'T FUCKING GET IT. She says she likes it, she says she wants it, but she keeps stopping me, saying not tonight, and it's starting to go from her playing hard to get and making it an exciting challenge to really pissing me off.
I'm wondering at this point whether she's even worth this kind of effort. I also don't know whether I went wrong somewhere and allowed her to get us into the frame of her controlling her sexuality as a bargaining tool to control me, giving her too much power. Not sure how to flip this back the other way.
Before you say it, I OF COURSE am still going out gaming other women, I haven't fallen in love with this cockteasing bitch, but I feel like I should be able to overcome this challenge, and it can only give me useful experience to help overcome LMR in the future.
ANY advice much appreciated.