Hey everyone. Uh, quick intro, I'm JLaw45, 18, my hobbies include football and weightlifting. I'm pretty much the definition AFC as far as girls go(no kissing, no sex, nothing-its a long story) which is part of why I'm here. I'm also heading out to college in like a week, which is why I need the quick advice.

There's this chick I've been trying to talk to lately. I know her because we're both going to the same school and she lives in my area. We've only met twice. Our school has regular area alumni gatherings and they often invite the incoming freshmen. We only got to talk very briefly(we would have talked a lot the second time but I got completely cockblocked by this old guy and his relatives). Now I'm speaking a little with her online.

The problem is timing. I'm going to start football camp in about a week, which means I'll miss the next alumni meeting(where I could've talked to her more). She doesn't do sports I don't think, which means I wont see her until our classes start on the 20th of September(Dartmouth starts notoriously late, don't ask me why). I want to at least lay some kind of foundation down now.

Would it be advisable for me to ask her out to do something casual this week before I leave? Is it not too early? And if it is ok, do you guys have any decent first date ideas? Dinner and a movie may work as fallbacks but they seem cliche and the dinners seem to turn into interviews after a while anyhow.

First of all....am I reading this right....You are a football player who goes to Dartmouth??? Let me tell you this my friend that alone will probably change your situation with women for the better haha. To get to your question though. I actually feel that movies are a poor initial date idea simply because it doesn't really allow you to interact. The key for any man is to build comfort with a woman and that is difficult to achieve while in a movie theater. Granted you could pull the old yawn move and slip your arm around her but if that is done too soon without any time of kino escalation that could spell curtains.

I prefer situations where you can verbally work your magic but you hit the nail on the head....dinners do often become interviews. And no one likes interviews. Keep it fun and light. Play games and say funny things. If you are having trouble with this you could always play the old interview game. This entails you each going back and forth and asking a question, however every question can only be asked once. Style's Five Questions game is always a hit and one of my personal favorites. It would take a while to explain it so if you are interested try searching it on the site. But when all else fails say some interesting things about your self and allow her to open up as you guide the conversation.

The easiest way to avoid the interview is to first start off with something easy like maybe hitting up a place with a lot of stores. A mall is perfect. Walk around the mall and go in stores...there is so much great material to use all around you. I once went into a store that sold bikini's grabbed one off the rack and waited for the saleswoman to come over. I asked her "how do you think this color would look"...holding the suit up between me and the girl I was out with. she started to answer saying well it looks like it would work really well for you (looking at the girl) and I said "whoa whoa I meant on me"....both the sales girl and the girl i was with burst out laughing. That is the type of material I'm talking about. Then if things are going well grab a casually coffee and dinner and show that you are not just a comedian and encourage her to open up like I mentioned above. I think even mentioning something about yourself in a manner that implies you have never told anyone else this before could be a great way build comfort. Then if all has gone well you must and I mean MUST K-close.

Disclaimer: You will be headed off to football camp soon so you have to understand that the above advice has the potential to create an attraction which might be a little bit too much for your plate. There is no rush. As I mentioned you are A FOOTBALL PLAYER THAT GOES TO DARTMOUTH...believe me there will be plenty of other girls. Maybe you just want to concentrate on your stuff now and then start things up when she gets to campus. That much is your call....also my friend is an D-lineman for Holy Cross so please make sure to wipe the floor with the Crusaders haha

aballa, thanks a ton, man. Yeah, I was recruited to play ball but I was still the ultimate AFC in high school. Again, long story, but I wanna change that now.

I'm gonna follow your advice and avoid the movie/dinner thing. Maybe get some ice cream and walk around the plaza a bit. I'll def check in on that 5 Question idea. There are stores there and the walking ought to make it easier to get some interesting convo going.

Thanks again man. And yeah, we'll try to shut down that QB and beat the crusaders. That's a tough away game, but I think we can do it.