Okay today this HB9 of a OutAlpha that i am currently been dating has been putting through a blur through this 3 day weekend, now she's wanting to see me tommarrow on her lunch, so i decided to freeze out and say ME:Say how about u call me tommarrow cus i need organise what i need to do Her:like i need to know now (I countered back) ME:how about wednesday Her:she was like fine Wednesday ME:how about can i call u Tommarrow in the morning Her:um u cant call @ 6 like you always do (btw my cell phone is out and i have a house phone) i mean should i crash and burn until i revamp my cell phone, cause this the chick thats being OutAlpha and it would be a bother for her call my house phone cause she doesnt want to interrupt anybody. Or if i flake until the end of this week until i pay of my cell phone, would become a stale and she would become less of a ioi

honestly if you are dating her already it sounds like a break up signal anyways. She wants to see you at a certain time at a certain place, and normally (i could be wrong) that is a sure sign of a break up. Especially when she gets huffy about you saying you are buisy, or cant do it on her time table. I would prepare for her to say something you maynot want to hear, but it is possible I am wrong. Hopefully i am if you really are into this lady.

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then why cant she tell me its off then and she's not showing any ioi, she said its up to me that if we break up. what should do if there isnt any ioi, i am getting pretty frustrated, i am into her.

qpidred That was very painful to read and quite confusing. Please re-read before you post
If she wants to meet you just get the business over with.
There's no reason to wait

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She is playing a game with you. What she is going is manipulating you and trying to get you to be the bad guy. Atleast that is what I perseve it as. If she is showing no interest in you and you are that into her, cat string her. Force her hand and you can see where she stands. Dont let her tell you its up to you what happens, cause you already know it is. She is trying to manipulate you. It is always your choice as to what happens, but at the same time, if she isnt interested and not portraying interest, then maybe you should roll off and end it. Seems to me like she is controlling you by telling you that you are in control. You doubt yourself after she says it and then she has the control. Sounds to me like you need to step your game up and try again on someone else. To me she sounds like a lost cause. But I am not there to know the full situation, so I can not say for sure.....

sorry :l i am just confused right now. Like RawWingman wrote, that its showing signs of a breakup signal. then why cant she be blunt and tell me that this relationship aint working. i asked her about it, and she was like "its up to me if we break up" I want to know what can I do if there isnt any IOI from her. You see lover I ran into this site by accident is because she told me i need to work on my conversational skills, because Ive been quiet. Now if i ran into this site before she wouldnt of known of my agenda.

I see well there is no quick fix. But I can tell by her saying you need to work on your conversational skills it means she's bored you're becoming too predictable(never good).
Are you quite when you two are with other ppl at a social gathering?
Do you not talk alot to her when you 2 are alone?
I curious what u did to attract her to begin with(short version)

Ok here's what you should do
1st Snap out that introverted shell right Now
2nd Just randomly take her somewhere this week like a Casino random road trips are fun

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Okay to make a long story short I met her through her HB friend of an 8, of course i couldve been with her but i chose this HB9, we kicked it and talked 2 weeks later we had a full closure at her house, drunk. another week later we drank again and had another full closure. I started to constantly to go over to her house and wasnt displaying any blurs flakes ect, i was constantly becomming too clingy. then she started to give me all these shit tests and then she started to see right through my agenda. Then all of sudden she randomly started to throw up these bitch-shields, i was like "wtf what are these barriers she's trying to put up" because of my One-itis that was developing i lost 2 major opportunities because of these these shit tests she was giving me. i mean, i am trying to all use some of these techs in here and try to confuse her of what my agenda's are.

Sorry but my opinion on this now that you said all that is it is a lost cause. I think if you started klingy and she got bored, I dont think that is a rut you will come out of. Honestly My personal opinion is that it should be ended and try anew. My personal opinion, but do get others opinions please before you do anything..

Space is a big must in the first few weeks of dating otherwise you'll get on eachothers nerves. Don't be afraid to tell her NO you can't hang out today you're busy doing something else. Let her miss being with you. Seems u forgot what got her there in the first place by being cocky & funny as they say you've got to maintain that(sparingly).
I don't know her thoughts exactly but your going to have to show her you're Alpha side once again.

This is a last shot attempt for you.
Last question what day is Lunch with her and how long is her break?

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1. well i guess to answer ur question what made her attracted to me was the fact she thought i was attractive and kind of funny. example, me and her was at this park i was saying a few snippets here and there, and i cracked on a few ducks (at that time i was being myself) 2. I am not that quiet its depends if the person starts the convo, but usually. like on friday i was walking along the sidewalk with and saw her friend that was sitting on the steps. Then her friend made a comment about me being a prop for her shade directing me to which direction i should move "like to the right to the right" and i counter back with "to the left to the left" my girl started to giggle and i finished it off with "what do you think i am, beyounce!" and 3 when i am alone with her we usually do alot of kino's and kind of talk.

her lunch's vary from 12:00 or 12:15 (30 minutes) and breaks 15 minutes

we'll guess you don't have much time.
For the 2 of you to actually cook a meal together that would have been interesting.
Like i said I don't really know what she's thinking just be cool and don't bring up anything negative tomorrow. NO mentioning of anything she's having issues with you about. Keep it Positive

I'm tired now going to bed

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Ok hommie, to me when they make comments such as to the right to the right, i would have poped back with ok show me how its done real quick and then sat down beside her friend or next to her which ever stood up. That way you you can DHV by getting one to stand up and do what they were trying to get you to do. Then as one is standing you can neg her like, WOW dont get much shade off you do we?? Honestly it sounds to me like she has been running game one you the whole time. She has been moving you like a puppet and doing a decent job at it. If you are able to keep her, I would reccomend having little time for her for a while and make her chase you a bit. If she does chase you, then she is yours. If she doesnt then let her go. I know easier said than done, but none the less it think it will be better for you in the long run. Test her by making her come after you. I think that will tell you what you want to know. Run her on your time table and from time to time even cancel on your time table. Something more important came up. Demonstrate you dont need her, you let her be with you, and she can go away just as easy. Once she is hooked into you then you can be the "nice" guy again and relax a bit more. Just my 2 cents..