I've noticed since my confidence level up and am doing better with girls, I'm getting a lot less approach invitations from women. I used to get girls smiling at me and holding eye contact. No, mostly I get fleeting eye contact if a woman is passing me, she'll usually look down and then away. Same thing at bars and stuff. A buddy of mine (who doesn't know about PUA, but is good with women) thinks that since I'm more confident, I'm putting out better energy and women are either testing my confident frame to see if I'll still approach without an AI (a shit or congruence test) or while confident I'm simply more intimidating. Would love to hear thoughts on this.

Second, I was out with some friends at a bar tonight. A friend of theirs (that I had never met) showed up. She is an HB8. One friend introduced everybody and she sat down at the table (1 empty chair between me and her). She gets out her wallet and says "shoot, I forgot my money in my car". She was looking in her wallet and

I had to fight down the AFC inside. I managed to not offer to buy her a beer, instead I came up with "hey, I'll walk you to your car, you shouldn't go through a parking lot alone at night". So, I walk her to her car, managing not to ask her why the hell she had money in her car, and not in her wallet. When we get to her car, she looks in the console and the door pocket thing and pops back out of her car. "Looks like I forgot money, damn"

I told her not to worry, and she looked up at me and smiled, then I finished with, I know where there's an SPAM right around the corner, come on. I walked her to the SPAM and she got cash out and we returned to the bar. I made a joke about her owing me a beer for providing my protective services for her and she actually bought me one. so, I know I got through this shit test, and I got her number, but it took like 15 minutes. How could I have handled this one better, besides just ignoring her whole "forgot my money" thing. I really wanted to take control of the frame.

You are being more intimidating, girls that first would approach are considering themselfs out of your league and thus are looking down (ioi) when you hold EC.

The thing with buying a girl a drink is mostly because chodes want something in return. It's the same as paying a hooker money to get something in return. That's why I don't buy girls beer that much. And the fact that money is for yourself.

and, try closing when she is in a high state.

So, if the girls are considering themselves out of my league, then my being more intimidating is coming off as more of a desperateness than confidence?

And on the beer story, I did wait until later to close her when she was in a high state. I meant that the shit test took 15 minutes.

Not only. It is also a DLV. A guy who has to give away his resources in order to get accepted is of lower value. A high value guy does not need approval, he is already approved or does not care about being approved. At least he would never pay for social acceptance like in buying a beer.

You handled the situation great man!

You are aware that she was looking for someone to buy her a drink right? You busted her game and thus you have a higher value than all the other losers that would go for it.

I knew she was looking for someone to buy her a drink. I guess what I was getting at was, would I still have been at as high value if I simply let some fool or friend buy her drinks or was completely busting her game even higher value? Because busting her game took like 15 minutes.