I've been seeing this girl for a while now and there just seems to be no wow factor to the sex. I want the passion but lack the confidence to take the stand and fear that the presidence has been set, so it'll never happen.

Any suggestions on ways to build sexual confidence or get her to just pounce on me and rip my clothes off?

eek. this is a tricky one. I can tell you what not to do cos i think this same reason contributed to my last seperation. Dont ever suggest spicing it up! dont suggest toys or night wear... or at least if your seeing my last gf dont. It makes them feel inadequate in my experience. But then if she is why not take the risk, she might try harder rather than leave you for some afc.
Although the reason i did that was because i knew she could pull it out the bag occasionally and those were the best times, i know... i think the key to that might be cat and string, you've got to be strong. and tease, have a quick make out and cut it short and say thats enough for now. get her in the mood then pull away... it might just work;)

Cheers, I'll give it a go next time I see her and let you know if it works.