My question is do I have to be a a-hole to get girls?
It is just that I feel like I am burning myself, like I am pouring out my contents just to get a hole inside myself.
And then fill that hole with girls.
I am more like a kidding type of person.

PS: I am not saying that any of you are a-holes just that I've seen some videos and stuff about this, and I just don't know.

And most importantly for me acting is like being, there is no difference in that, and if that's my first impression people will perceive me as one.

Read up on the inner game material. Sounds like you still think like a AFC!!!! Being a PUA isn't about being an a-hole. It's about being yourself but better. You gotta find which method fits you the best!!!! From what I'm reading, it seems you think that you have to be an a-hole to be a PUA but it's actually being cocky funny or cocky playful. It shows that your confident and able to take charge, if not, you could be stuck in the LJBF zones or girls running over your ass. Read up and study the material, after time, you'll be able to configure the material to your personality.

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