known this girl since october or so. and its been hot and cold the entire time...im talking like every-other week here but dont you worry, she hasnt been getting my full attention because of that .Ive offered to hang out plenty of times but still lame excuses... Anyway, her motive has been revealed, its all about me being a "player";) and her worrying about me and my ex hookin up again(because we have in the past) (which might be another excuse?). she almost seems insecure and shy, but claims shes not *rollseyes*. i think its worth to keep her warm on the backburner until she smartens up.

how to fix the worried flaky insecure girl?
im thinking about just tellin her "are you in or you out, because were both wasting our time doing this, its ok if your intimidated. alot of girls are intimidated by me"

this clears off my backburner for a new girl if she out
or this will make her take a risk

you could ask her that. that's what i would do because i'm not down for wasting my time. actually i probably would even say that much. i don't have the time nor energy to deal with peoples insecurities, but that's me.

chances are, she either cares about you a lot and is worried, or she doesn't give a fuck, and instead of telling you that, just makes excuses until you give up.

i guess well find out in a few days. ill ask her for the last time to hang out this weekend. if not ill see whats up.
thanks for the thoughts