I think you're relying too much on routines. They're great in the beginning as they extend an interaction. (And are DHV of course)
But the quote about "i see some of these girls kinda often now" suggests you want to be the court jester to gain approval. That without the routines/tricks you feel these sets wouldn't talk to you.
To me that points a little towards another persons post about only being able to game if he had a Bentley and Breitling.

You can game with no DHV, or routines and still get great results.

you just have to have faith that your "bare" peronality is enough.
