Ok I have a situation that I need help with. Here's the outline....

I'm 17 and there's a few new girls in school (year below me). About mid October, I liked one of them, and chatted to her on facebook (sad I know), but then I found out that she had a bf. I asked for her msn address but was certain she'd given me a false one because I'd seen her give out a different msn address to someone else on her facebook wall. Besides, when I added the msn address she gave me, it was placed under 'non instant messenging contacts'. Anyway, I left it like that, didn't press her about it - I just left it after all I was only introducing myself and being friendly!

Anyway, from about mid November onwards, a little while after I stopped talking to this girl I liked over facebook, 2 or 3 of her friends started to notice me and stared a little. They stopped looking with interest around the end of November.

Now the intrugeing bit... one of the girl's best mates has just started to stare at me and take a lot of notice of me .. but only recently. Numerous times she has stared at me, but with no obvious smile.. a fairly blank expression much like how the other girls did. This recent girl is called Charley and she also at times looked at me, and when I looked at her, she quickly glanced away, as if she were pretending to look at something else!

I would consider myself as good looking, with a slim figure, and I seriously think she may like me. I mean, every day I can count about 2 or 3 main times when she has given me that stare or quick glance. I 've just had a short spiked haircut lol and tbh, a few other girls in different years have been giving me the looks lol.

I'm a little confused as to why Charley is looking at me the way she does. She will probably be looking at me first, then nI'll look for about 3 or 4 secs because Im not confident. She keeps staring!! The day after she looked at me lots, her brother added me on facebook. He is in my year.

The thing that makes me think that she may like me is that the first time she looked at me, she did so not with friends (as in the friends were pointing me out to her) ,, but she took a really good look at me when we walked past each other at school..

Really need help here What do I do, and what do you think is going on??

The next time you two make eye contact, walk up to her, say hey, and begin a conversation. You really have no other choice if you want something to happen. Maybe make a C+F comment when you see her staring at you. Just be friendly, and you can't go wrong...either you two hit it off or you learn she's a b!tch and you move on.

Thanks for the advice - i just find that really really hard to do! Because she's hardly never alone, and she's popular and I'm quiet

I have one of her friend's msn addresses - maybe I could say something to her online?? What could I say exactly, if anything?? Perhaps write me a little template of what to write? LOL

Cheers !!!

right now you need to work on your inner game!!! read double ur dating!!!

Double your dating?

I'm a little confused as to why Charley is looking at me the way she does.

There is only one way to find out and it's not by chatting aimlessly on MSN.
I would listen to stalemate and work on your inner game. You can't be shy or timid if your looking to be successful with women.

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-sigh- if only I had knew about pu when I was in high school. Anywho if you're waiting for a chance to be alone with her it's not gonna happen. Hot chicks are rarly alone. Instead of stalking out her email address the next time you see her staring at you go up to her after class and say "I saw you staring, am I that handsome?"but say it in a joking manner and put a cheesy smile on. Most likely her or her friend will start laughing then switch the subject to something like "this class is so boring isn't it" and tadaa you've got yourself a Convo with her and her friend and I think you can take it from there.

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Hey buddy, no offense, but would you mind making a new topic for your problem? Just because otherwise, my problem is completely ignored lol, and it's fairly confusing dealing with two matters in one thread. Cheers!

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Sorry bro, do you know how? because I tried but it said that "newbies" couldn't post new topics.

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Oh my god, massive massive nighmare happened today at school - quite possible the worst day I have ever had.

Basically, this is what happened. One friend first came up to me...well didn't come up to me but brought it up in a long convo..that he heard some people talking about myself liking this girl in the year below. I was like 'Oh right ok' but a little confused.

Then at the end of the day, another guy i know in my year told me there is a rumour going around that I am stalking this girl and been chatting to her over fb!!!!!!! I was lyk 'WFT!!!!' I know who this girl is - it is Siobhan - this is the girl who I originally lyked about two months ago..(the one who i mentioned at the start of my first post).. But I only introdeced myself and asked for her msn! .. that's not stalking - I was being polite and friendly!!!

It's really upsetting me! How do I deal with this???? You know I told you all that there is this Charley girl that kept staring at me - well before I thought she liked me - now i think she's looking because I'm a weirdo and a stalker!! I'm really upset about it

Thats pretty rough. I would brush it off and don't let it bother you, as long as its not bothering you and its not getting any reaction out of you, it will quickly be dropped.

You truely need to work on your approach anxiety though because using instant messenger and facebook too talk to people you see everyday in person does come off a bit weird. Start talking to lonely girls and such, talk to random guys that you dont know. Just work on being more social and approach as much as possible.

The rumor is pretty rough but im pretty sure that it will quickly be dropped if you don't let it bother you, don't say anything about getting her email legitly or anything just dont bring it up at all. Truely not that much of an interesting topic that it should stick around long.

Ok thanks for the advice. I've had to take a day off today because I just couldn't walk into that common room full of people, knowing that I'm going to get stared at by some. It's just all gone wrong - I was only intending to introduce myself on fb - and that is what I did! We had a normal friendly chat and for some reason I'm now being called a stalker!!!?? rant over