I posted this in another board, im not sure which is the right place.

I am into this girl and have been getting pretty close to her. I dont think I have reached the just friends point... but one of her friends came up to me and said i think she likes you. I am just having problems asking her out. I watched vin di carlos texting pick up and i started. here is the text convo:

matt: what are you doing tonight?
girl: idk
matt: i know something we can do
girl: wat
matt: you know what..ill save it for monday night
girl: what is it
matt: monday night
girl: matt no1 knows what your talkin about
matt: whos nonone
girl: haha myself
matt: aright. monday night i know something cool we can do and im not gonna tell you what it is
girl: then im not coming
matt: i thought you were spontanious
girl: hahah whoever said that
matt: let me surprise you... are you always this difficult
girl: hahah im sorry but i am
matt: me too

it ends here and i dont know what to do. you might be able to tell i am pretty new to this stuff. so any advice would help.

id try to add in emoticons in the convo. For example:

Wont tell you what it is
Im going to surprise

try suduce her insinuative (To introduce or insert (oneself) by subtle and artful means), not to say," hey i like you", its called a game for a reason and giving up ur intentions will make it boring. what your doing must be giving her massive stress, cause she prob expects and knows what your trying to do. Its good that you've made the decision that your finally going to try get her but don't do nothing that your character goes against, like trying word for word lines that puas use, read the art of suduction that'll get you going. But going against your character will cuase mistrust with her, and you'll appear like mulnipulating. Just really be genuine, you've got a good character already since she prob likes you, but if you haven't read any material, nor had any experience, i don't know what to say to help you. But at the end, its very good that your doing something about it and you'll improve if you keep at it. And that this is just an opinion bro, good luck.

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First thing I notice is if that is word for word, apart from the emotion missing in the instance of using smileys so we get the gist of the convo.

Shes responding with close responses, to the point, no elaboration which screams to me "Get lost im not interested" - it could also scream "Look im shy im not good at this" (thats the break down in emotion)...

you need to go out on a limb in these instances, open her up or walk away

too full on imo

if i only know a girl my msn or something, i chat to them abit about summer holiday and all that shit.

get to know them abit so they fee comftable whilst laying down some nice lines.


could have asked her what she is upto and then if she askes you, its a small IOI, which you can then say im thinking of going to blah blah, fancy joining me?

if she sais no, shes not interested but if she says "no im busy but another time" she is...

or the straight out after she has said nothing you? "good, we're doing something?" women love it when men take control

Dont forget girls like to know a little bit about what to expect, they gotta make themselves look right for whatever is going to happen and also theres the insecurity of being hurt in a place she doesnt know.
Advice I would give myself is consider letting her know what to wear, if you planning on a movie or meal them tell her to dress up or to wear casual clothes for a bit of an adventure.
Obviously ya dont want to tell her where or what ya got planned but if shes got to dress up then its putting alittle excitement into the event, would YOU be excited/curious if she said to dress smart with a tie.
Have you also said anything to suggest shes gonna be safe with YOU, seems the text suggested just a kids fun day at the playground is in the offing? You got a cool ride planned to pick her up or something to make her wonder what you both gonna be doing?
Just wonder why she should even want to meet you ! - Dont forget shes gonna be testing you, look up bitch tests in these forum posts...

Just think if it was you in her shoes, why should she let you into her .. have fun whatever happens...
Just my thoughts, advice is free and you are free to take or leave it .
J1f

I'm hoping she is a little shy. She was giving me crazy IOI's a week ago.

i responded a day later:

matt: hey kiddo, still being difficult? i had the craziest day
girl: hahaha what was your day like

any other tips from here on??? If she is shy, what can i do to open her up?

I appreciate all the help so far. Thanks guys