ok so me and this girl talked for about 1 month then she stoped talkin i called like 3 times or more i dont remember.... so anyways i havent talked for like a week or 2 on phone or aim then i was like fuck it im messagin her just to see so we talked and i think had a good conversation.. how i missed talking to her.. would the PUA say that or would it just be a AFC move. becuase i really wanted something to workout?

I really think this mindset has to leave the community. The 'PUA' is just someone who is so congruent and comfortable with himself that he doesn't care about validation from others. Most of the 'pros' out there would probably say that to show neediness like this, you are lowering your value and attraction to her. This is probably true, but I think it is more important to just be congruent with your self first.

That being said, there is a right way and a wrong way to say anything. If you had the tonality where you're like "you know what, I missed talking to you. Don't get all sentimental on me now," then you are conveying the right things. I think if you can't get a physical relationship to work within the next couple weeks, then you need to move on and stop chasing this girl.

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well i talked to her last night should i try and talk to her again tonight or wate like a day?

1) Yes it was AFC of you to tell her you missed her. This does more than show needyness, it ends the hunt. She knows she has you

2) call her when you feel like calling her...just dont be annoying. Also search the forums for phone game.

Someone on the forum chat room once told me that we all have alittle AFC still that resides in our minds. It's true because sometimes I catch that pesty little voice wondering if I fucked up here and there. It's natural for you to have those feelings - don't fight them, just listen to them! THe more you fight with that little naggy AFC voice in your head - the more you're gonna be willing to do what it wants you it to do! Just keep it cool though!

I know how it feels to have a hotty write you and you get all excited and bouncy up and down on the cheer! I can understand clearly how that is! It's purely human to get excited that you feel wanted and loved - however, you have to know that it's cool that if she doesn't write back and cool if she does. You know? You have to care less but also give a dam if you will. You know?

Let Uncle Stealth tell you a story - this one chick messaged me, "Hey, we should def. go out!" I was like yeah baby! I screwed up because I negged her when she was giving me an IOI! I realized that now and i can continue to grow more into become a better person. I soon realized the PUA isn't just about being better with girls and how much fucks you can get within a week but actually become better people around other people - whether or not it be with your friends, family, girlfriends etc.. PUA can work in many areas in your life like Work, Home, School, Etc..

However, it's all about growth and the sooner you understand the difference between which part of you is talking - then you'll soon becoming better as a person socially, intellilectually, etc.. etc..

So, this whole thing about PUA and AFC - like a member wrote in this thread does have to go. It's not either BLACK OR WHITE kinda thing. It all falls down to a shade of Grey. We all have both sides to us - no matter if you're a MPUA, PUA or what! You know? I'm sure Mr. Gambler, Mystery, Sin, or Style has a tiny voice in their heads saying, "You idiot - you've should've done that!" or "You fool, why in the hell don't you call her back!" but however, what makes them different is how they act and what skills they use.

It's in our psychology to be wanted, loved and not alone! So, in my own opinon just listen to the voice but don't do what it tells you! Don't be like, "Okay, i have to call this chick because I think she'll like me more!" NO, that's a BOO BOO that will leave you with a BOO BOO situation! You know? Keep your mind open and sort out thoughts - if it helps, take a time out and pre-occupy yourself with something! THe more stuff you have to do the more you're not going to be so impulsvie on acting on those basic instincts. Hope this helps man!

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