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I was in your situation about 2 months ago. Just arrived to a new city and had to build up a social network from scratch. Some tips:
Befriend people you live close to. Anybody you see in the elevator, front lobby, gym, etc . . . Open, open, open. With these guys, you know they live right around you so you don't have to press. Usually, you'll see them going to or coming from other places. Befriend guys, girls, everyone. Everybody in these situations talk about, "Where are you from? Just moved in?" and that goes to "What do you do on weekends?" . . ."What's a hot club?", etc . . . Don't be shy. . . "Hey, which unit do you live in? Hey, let's hook up for beers and cards at my place . . . OK, give me your number . . ."
When sarging alone, just open the first set you see. I love tag teams. That's what I call 2 hb sets. Sure other combos work but when working alone and there are more than 2 girls, they tend to get clicky with one another. One girl alone and there's a slight sense of threat with this immediate 1 on 1 situation. Anyhow, this isn't really important. Just open.
Stories make great openers. Girls love stories and fantasies. Guys are all about logistics. You go to a party and what do 80% of the guys talk about? 1. Directions and which road they chose to get there. 2. Why x road is better than y road. 3. Which road they'll take on the way home. 4. Sports scores. 5. "Wow, that _____ and _____ are really hot!"
But you could even take these boring topics and twist them in ways to keep women interested. It could be something like:
"You know what they should do? They should invent a car that does all the driving for you. It should make all those turns, give automatic alerts to flip birdies at assholes and parallel park while it brews me a cappuccino. We can space travel and they still can't make a car that does this?" . . . "We go to the movies in a car like this and we could theoretically make out while going to the movies. See the marketing angle here? We could be like making out and we'll go, hey, hey, birdy light! Flip the birdy!"
Keep in this frame. Start off with a better topic than "directions" and you could give it a much better sexual angle. You see people in bars and usually, they're bored to death. Offer fun. Open . . . close . . . move . . .
But don't make the mistake I made and continue moving on and pivoting friends (that you've already made). Once you build up a fun and strong group. Put some energy into it. And if you run into negative people, just drop em' like a sack of potatoes. You can find and befriend positive, fun people. Just because you're the new guy in town with no friends yet doesn't mean you have to settle for negativity.
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