sometimes when i say things that girls dont understand i think they feel stupid... is this a dhv for me or just not a good thing to do?

i have to dumb myself down for a lot of these girls

Don't dumb yourself down, just say things in terms that they will understand. You can say really profound, intelligent and well thought out things, just in simpler terms that anyone can understand. By choosing to use language that they don't understand, you don't connect with them and may even come off as trying to sound smarter than them or a whole variety of negative personality traits. It took me a long time to get a handle on this and sometimes I still have to rephrase things after I have said them.

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makes sense... but in a way putting it into simpler terms is dumbing down... but if thats what it takes!!!

Dont think of it as dumbing down. It's a great thing to be smart. You get to see the world in a truer light than most, but using it as an excuse is an AFC crutch. I used to say stuff like: "These girls are just too dumb for me to connect with." That's great, but people say that to themselves when they are lying in bed at night alone.

There's lots of different forms of intelligence. Social intelligence is one of them. Make it an advantage that you are smart. Read up on some social psychology and evolutionary psychology. It will help your game. You might not even have to dumb down your vocabulary (which is what I'm assuming the problem is) if you're speaking confidently and owning the set.

Just put Noam Chomsky on hold, and let Vince Vaughn take over. Once you get past comfort, a quality girl will appreciate that she is with a smart guy.

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Talking in an esoteric fashion is the biggest DLV smart guys do all the time!

It's lame, it will appear as though you are constantly trying to show that your smart...which is really just another form of value offering and to be constantly doing so is just begging for validation...

It also conveys that you are not a highly socialized individual. It shows that you have not considered the other person. Imagine if you were in conversation and you had no idea what the person was going on about. You would feel like a dumb ass, and eventually associate these negative feelings along with the person that made you feel that way.

Good luck, this was issue I had as well... thankfully it's an easy one to fix

Try not to talk logically. Try to talk emotionally. Women see the world in images and feelings, not numbers and logic. Try talking in these terms. Describe things vividly and talk about the emotions involved in it (especially your own). Speak in parables and similes if you really have to, but just don't make it boring for them, that's the worst thing you could do.