'Don't Want To Be Hurt? Thats Why She Dont Want A Relationship'

Previous relationship is stopping her from being with me apparently. She doesnt want to get hurt.

I dont understand how to go about convincing to be with me as in a relationship

We ALWAYS hook up where ever we go whenever, shes coming to stay for a weekend soon

whats going on?

Also, does she need more attraction? or possibly more comfort? I want to be with this girl, this is a major sticking point SPAM lol

advise me guys

She's going through a phase. All women do that after they get cheated on. They just want sex, they don't want their heart invloved because they don't want it broken. It part of their natural healing process. She will grow out of it in time. If you DHV enough with regards to trust and dependability, she might choose you as her baby step back into relationships.

You reckon? how can i go about getting her then?

distach a bit, im sure you have heard of the gift of missing you....not every case is the same keep in mind but perhaps to distach and maybe instead of 3 or 4 phone calls a week go 2 and instead of 3 or 4 hang outs do 2 instead....get her missing you

but maybe your alrady doing the bare minimum like 1 call a week and 1 hang out in which case my advice would not apply

questions??

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Yeahhh Thanks

Spoke to her tonight, and she tells me she has feelings for me but is scared that she will love me and I wont love her.

She keeps wanting to "see how things go" we've been like this for at least 4 weeks now, nothings changed, we get with eachother and argue aswell.

I'm rude to her on the phone and sometimes off with her, but thats all playin hard to get.

I dont know how to go about this, never had much experiance with these things, im a good looking guy so attraction is there.

Thanks Mpua Saviour

You have to be the one telling the girl to take things slow. Don't ask to be in a relationship or try to go out on 'dates' with her. If you take it easy and make her comfortable, and then over time tell her a few things you like about her (personality-wise), then she may want to get more serious.

hey i'm not sure if this will work but it sure worked for me. I met this girl and she was with an abusive boyfriend and I basically gamed her for a week and soon after she broke up with her boyfriend. She went through the whole "I still love him" and "I'm afraid to be hurt again and never want to love anymore" phase. Anyway I did what you did, game her and she eventually told me she likes me but was too afraid to start a relationship because i might not love her back. Well what i did was i just got straight to the point after 2 weeks of that. I took her out, DHV, got her to laugh and stuff, and at the end of the night i got her into a romantic type of setting (in the car with the moon roof open looking at the stars with R&B music) and kissed her. Then i told her that I will take care of her and stuff like that and finally told her that I'm not gonna stand around and wait for her anymore. She shouldn't blame me and make me pay for his mistakes and that if she doesn't take this chance to be with a great guy with me then she will regret it because i'm so fun and will truly take care of her (I didn't exactly say it like that but got the point across as that) and she made a decision and stuck with me and we had a great relationship. If she don't want to then just move on but keep in contact and game her, make her feel like she did miss out, hang out with her in a group and DHV and interact with other girls, make her jealous and when she shows you enough interest, try it again. Otherwise just move on to another girl. Hope that helps, good luck with it though bro

We only accept the love we think we deserve.

You have to understand, a woman who's been cheated on or mistreated is in a very low point with her own self-esteem. Deep down she thinks that something is wrong with her, and she's afraid you might "see that." In all honesty, she might just sabotage herself out of her own insecurity and hurt.

Just give her time. She'll come around.

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Cheers for the advice guys really do appreciate it,

shes a strange one to work out, she admits she likes me but is really scared i wont feel the same way, although i said ive got feelings for her

Will keep you all updated as time progresses, shes got a lot of other guys around her, i want to be the one she thinks about if ya get me?

Quit trying to lock her down.

You have to let her be. Do not over pursue. She wants the comfort of knowing you are going to be there for her without the title of a relationship. Don't bring up the "What are we?" question. She doesn't want that kind of pressure. She just wants to have a fun laid back relationship with a fun charismatic guy.

Be that guy.

CK

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ok guys said i would keep you updated, heres whats going on

sat night we went out and she tried to stop herself making out with me to prove she was in control so I took some girl back to mine and well... made out with her on my bed lol, any way apparently she got really jeleous and text me twice etc etc so yeah i pissed her off bad

spoke to her recently and sorted it out although she was really upset and reckons her feelings have changed now ( clearly they havent shes jus saying it) but i said i would take her out to make it up to her, so we went out last night with another couple, she wanted me to pay, but i didnt because frame control and all that.

but one thing is though she wouldnt kiss me at the end of the night, then she text me later sayin " its not that i dont want to but you ent getting away with things that easily im sorry babe dont be in a mood" (she was refering to what happened at the weekend) she got really really jelous about what happened at the weekend and keeps asking me about how i feel about this girl and whats going on and making constant references to this girl. Im going to this party tomorrow night and both are going to be there. She said on msn last night that she doesnt know how she feels anymore, i think shes bluffing personally because i got a lot of ioi's last night (playing with the necklace, looking into my eyes, laughing at my jokes etc etc)

I was in the alpha role last night I took control, the only thing I didnt have control over was what film we went to see.

no we havent had sex yet.

but shes coming over on saturday night, i said we'd cook dinner together and she could wash up (alpha role again)

how would you progress to sex from there? and also once your making out, what step do you do next? and so on?

few things i'd really like to know

your opinion on

-does she like me and is she bluffing?

- she got really jeleous should i play on that?

- what else do you suggest?

- how should i act with her?

- and your general opinion about everything ive just said

- is the dinner thing a good idea and if not what would you suggest?

I want to be in a relationship with this girl. At the end of the day.

Totti;;