-Approach anxiety: Anxiety level is @ a 10 when it's even more than one female. I'd say my anxiety level is @ a 7 or so when a female is alone. Keep in mind. These are levels when I'm in normal settings, like work or shopping, ect.

I'm stuck thinking: 1) She has a BF. 2) She doesn't like black guys. 3) She's not attracted to me, ect. All negative thoughts. And completely dreading that dead-air.

It's so hard to keep in check.

-False philosphy: I usually have an eye contact rule. I feel like I have 0% chance if she doesn't even give me eye contact. Therefore, I won't even try. I'm not sure how true this is. I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of opportunities because I'm not getting that eye contact.

-No gameplan: I can't devise a gameplan to save my life. I don't have an arsenal of moves or anything.

So hopefully, by browsing and contributing where I can, I can come up with solutions for these problems. I feel like half the battle is identifying the issue. Now I'm on the look out for solutions.

I feel like life is living me, and I'm just not living life right now.

Peace.

Welcome to the forums.

Get rid of those negative thoughts ASAP. Understand that all women want you and they are just dying to meet you. They are looking for that strong confident guy to sweep them off their feet. When they see you, they are intimidated, and want to go home with you.

The forum is loaded with great info. Whatever is needed is here.

Good luck bro.

CK

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