I work in a club. There's a girl who comes regularly who I've had my eye on, and we always smile at each other, but I couldnt make moves because I had a gf who worked there. Last night she approached me making small talk and I asked her if she was as interesting as she looked and she said she was boring. I said "think of something interesting about yourself you can tell me by the end of the night". Later I bumped into her and said "Oh it's miss boring" which she didnt find funny at all and denied even saying it about herself. Her drunkness didnt help the situation. I fucked up! Now I've just stumbled across her on myspace and have realised I spoke to her online years ago, and we really got on. I think then she got a bf and lost interest. 6 months ago I'd tried to make contact again and she ignored. Now, do I tell her the situation? Do I tell her in person or online? I'm thinking I should try to erase the fucked up in person, and mention how we used to speak online, in person. Would that be best?

So now I've re-read our message history and remembered a few things about her. If I made mention of these things but didnt tell her how I knew, would it build interest our wierd her out?

I think you're getting the oneitis my friend... I say forget about this girl for now and get out there and game others. If you happen to bump into her later just open her like she's someone you hardly know... I suggest not talking to her about your online history at all unless somewhere in the future you get to a point where you feel confident talking to her about anything... if that happens just say "Know what? I've been thinking about something.. I think we talked online a couple of years back. Wasn't your screen name "blah blah"... et c"

but for now... just drop her. Don't think about gaming her.

It's not oneitus because I am actively persueing other girls. I just know I will see her again and feel teasing her about things I know will build intrigue and when I say we spoke before she'll feel good we have a history. I love how most of the advice I get on here with any girl I'm after is dont bother with her. Yeah, I'll just not bother with any girl, and never have sex again. Thanks guys. GREAT PICK UP ADVICE...

You're thinking about the situation too much. I do this all the time too. lol

Dude the best way to go about talking to her, is to just do it randomly. If you think about the situation your gonna get f'd.

Also go meet more people mr. one-itis.

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so either dont bother or dont think about it. i can see myself getting loads of girls with this pua attitude

It sounds from your earlier post that it isn't a good history though (unless I've misread your post). I would use the knowledge you have to your advantage and keep it to yourself that you've spoken before.

If for example you can use your previous conversations to second guess her feelings/emotions so that so "feels like you understand her", you're one up. But telling her you've spoke before would be like a magician revealing how its done. All the magic lost.

Good luck, let us know how you get on.

yeah it's almost as good as the attitude of criticizing people trying to give you advice you asked for.

I'd def wait for an in person meeting and then make it seem like you just remembered her as you were talking. I.E don't bring it up for 3-5 minutes of small talk. You can then say something like, you're really familiar. Do we have friends in common or something, you totally remind me of this girl I used to talk to online.

If she's not willing to make small talk with you for 3-5 minutes, you shouldn't be bothering as she knows you exist but simply isn't interested.

It's always a good idea to let the girl bring up the fact you guys knew each other to avoid looking desperate or like a stalker. But in this case if she doesn't bring it up, you should.

This is way too much focus on one girl that's probably stopping you from cold approaching IMO.

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