Guys I need some advice. I'm an average looking divorced 48 year old father. I've been using paid for dating websites for a year now. At first I was crap, but following all the material I've studied the response rate to my emails has recently gone up dramatically. I've had 10 meeting so far, 8 of these did nothing for me in person, but I still practised my skills and 7 of these wanted to see me again. My confidence was riding high. However recently I met 2 girls that I was attracted to, both blew me out. With the last one we had a fantastic exchange of emails, she seemed really into me. We met, it seemed to go ok, I finished the date, kissed her on the cheek and said I'd be in touch. I emailed her a day later and she replied saying I wasn't her type.

I know I should just forget it immediately and move on but I was shocked and it's really knocked my confidence.

2 questions:

Is it possible that when I meet one I like one my body language shows it and blows it ?
And how do I deal with these knocks to my self esteem ?

Dude, don't let anyone let you down or fuck up your self-esteem! Yes, it's easier said than done, but move on and let the actions of what happened pass over you while learning from your mistakes.

Body language is soooo crucial! Do you know how many times my dates have been going soooo well to then just fuck up at the end because of body language and certain actions? In fact, my last one was just last Thursday haha! Field report of that will be up soon!

Anyway, if you think you are a failure, this will be shown in your body language. Be confident, be alpha, and when you are with the girl push passed the boundaries of comfort for yourself. Remember SHE needs YOU! YOU don't need HER! When you think like this, you will think alpha and won't seem needy or nervous and she'll come running to you. Flirt with her especially on Day Two's and be the Hunter and not the Prey.

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online is hard its based on looks, you can talk a big game but when it comes time to play on the field if your not up to par your walking home

you had a good convesatoin with her went well, she agreed to meet...
but when she saw you that attracton shot down worse then a stock market crash, there isnt much you can do cause the rest of the time she is mostly gonna be stand offish caues you havent met her attraction standars........even though everyone claims you can get every and any woman you want through pick up it aint true....

the online thing and then meet up its gonna be on looks and if your not up to par you have slim chance...

you can recover with awesome conversaoitn and what not but highly highly doubtful....

so really you gotta understand nt everyone is gonna like you or want you

and body language no that doesnt blow it less your body language sucks.....but say a girl likes you and given online dating woman are looking for men so if she likes you do you think showing body language of interest will make her say i dont lke him anymore of course it wont..


but do make sure your body language is good and accruate..

and how do you forget time for one, forget for two, dont let it bohter you for three and just try and get anoher date soon enough..


just remember not everyone will want ot date you its a game of numbers'

i always believed that men go for looks woman personality

well online woman go for looks and so do men
so when you meet up if you dont perform it wont go well


so realize not everyone wil want you, create alpha body language, and just try and creat and attitude to the point that if you get blown out again it will be easier to recover

questions?

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Thanks for your replies. I had 3 photos on there so you'd think she had some idea of what I looked like beforehand. But are you really saying that she probably blew me out based solely on looks ?

I have been told to get the best photo I can, possibly profesionally done, but isn't that just setting yourself up for failure. ?

I thought women were supposed to be more focused on status and other perceptions of value.

i dont believe in all pua aspects of the game thinking you can get EVERY woman you want......i believe if you follow the rules of the game you can get MOST woman, but not all......

and pictures are different and they may rationalize...

my brother not the best looking guy around does the online thing, and he get's girls to agree to meet but more times then not when they do meet she ends up hanging but then that is the only date they go on and she gives the reason your not my type.....

now im not saying she go's solely on looks.....

but i am saying that when she checks out your mug and if she doesnt have a smile on her face like she just wont the lottery then you got some work to do to get that sexual attraction up for you......

online the game is different, in person its easier cause your actually face to face doing a pick up but when you meet someone over the internet...
and then you meet up your both hoping the person will fit the mold of what yoru looking for physically

now this is MOST woman online and MOST men........most people are online to meet someone and of course you want someone who meets your attraction standards.......

so when two people meet up say the guy isnt up to the girls Attraction standards, then he is gonna have to work over time to get her attraction for him up....

i have devised a system and ill explain it very simply

its a number scale 1 to 10, say a guy is a 5 well he will have the best chance of scoring within his attraction range say around a 6 and lower......now any higher and your gonna have to work alittle harder to get with her...


what im saying is if yoru a 6 and a girl is a 5 yoru gonna have to act alpha yeah but she will most likely already find you sexually attractive so you dont have to put much effort into getting her to be attracted towards you....

now if your a 6 and she is a 9 some gaming will have to take place to get her to like you, it is possible for her to like you its just you have to spit a little more game

so say when you meet a woman and she is a 7 and yoru a 5 and she rationalized yoru pictures to be a 7 or you can say within her attractional standards....she will expect you to be that.....

it doenst mean if your a 5 she wont come to see you im saying that she viewed your pictues AS a 7 and that is what she is expecting, there is cases though where she knows your a 5 and she justs like you for you in that case yoru good to go....but in most cases looks comes first....

so when you walk in and she see's you are a 5 and in her mind you needed to be a 7....well you got your work cut out for you cause at this point she isnt attracted to much so you need to step it up to get her to be that way..

this is with most people, guys and girls...

now im sure on occasion you will get to a woman and this wont be the case but with most people if your not what they want well you better have a game that will make em feel it...


dont believe me...........why is it a guy who is a 5 go's into a club and the HB9's arent all over him, but with alpha male attitude they can be.....but say a guy is a 9 and in the club the hb9's most likly will on first visual impression say he is hot, he is cute, blah blah blah...well they like him physicallly so he wont have to spit as much game as the 5 to get with those girls they are already sexually attracted too him....


so based on conclusion we can say that this girl wasnt sexually attracted to you on first look and your gonna have to spit some good game in order for her to change her mind.....that is if she hasnt already walked out the building upon seeing you.....which is known to happen...

sometimes when girls meet up with you from online sites...well if yoru not up to par they will stick it out but there brain is shut off cause they just want to get the hell out of the situation cause there already turned off.....so at this point your gonna have to have a few tricks up yoru sleeve to get her to change her mind...

now to cover all my bases you can be a 7 and meet up with a girl lwho is a 5 but she is so stuck up in her mind she believe;s she is a 9 so therefre more work will be required...or she will be expecting a guy to be a 9 so more work will be required......



i hope i covered everything

but to anwser your question everyone go's for looks first and based on that person's perception of how hot you are determines how hard you have to work...

if your a 5 and she is a 9 = a lot

9 and she is a 5 = almost none

there is always circumstances like previously stated..

thats why hot guys have better luck with woman, and ugly guys need to know the game to even out the playing field....


any questions???

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