so i got the courage to ask a girl out to lunch this week. i've known her for 2 weeks or so. i rarely see her but we facebook message from time to time. my question is, how do u escalate during this situation. i want to let her know that i'm interested. i know that if i don't do this, i might get friendzoned. plus, i haven't asked for her # yet. i want to do that in person.

friendzone = AFC

her attraction towards you = alpha male

what is an alpha male?

well thats a man who at all is confident, knows what he wants, just kiss ass, just suck up, basically its someone who acts like a man

so on your date on want you to be confident, have good body lanuage, build this amazing aura yoru clothing style yoru attitude just so that everythign flows toghther and says Alpha or in other terms confident,

then after that is just a matter of playful conversation, having fun, and not really caring how the date go's....to many guys mess up here thinking omg she isnt talking say something quick, or get mad she isnt starring at your 24/7, or get jealous that she saw a guy friend of hers,

just be able to be confident, good body language, in control, fun, and witty
mixed in with a little interesting convresation, playful word use, C&F, poking fun on occasion,........


how to show your interested,
hold eye contact, smile, pay attention, have fun,

i woudlt worry bout lettin her know your interested that wont get you anywhere

what i mean is.......say she knows your interested is that gonna change the fact that say for instance she just likes you as a friend no it wont

but say she does like you and isnt sure if yoru interested, will she all of a sudden give up and not be interested any more of course not..

so mainly id focus on your innner game mostly, and have just an all out good time


any questions?

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mPUA Savior, that was a really great post!

It made me feel alot more confident with how my lunch date went today. Yeah I found it hard to escalate kino. Didn't manage to work up to a k-close but did finish with giving her a friendly backrub before we departed.

Dressed well, converstation was flowing, had alot of laughs and felt quite witty throughout. Lots of heavy eye contact and she was leaning into me when I leant back. Both seemed to have a good time but no physical progression. Alot of comfort was built.

Where to go from here? We talked about potential activities for day 2. I don't want to seem keen/clingy/desperate. So when do I next speak to her, even if it just a txt and not arranging next date. I have 2 or 3 hook points for C&F and banter.

no k-close, or kino what the hell is wrong with you? lol im only kidding

i dont do kissing or to much touching ont he first date it gives away sexual tension right away......ill do a bit of touching just enough to show my interest but no more......

let me explain and then ill explain what i explained lol...

say you shook a bottle of pop and have a pin in your hand, say every tiem you poke tht bottle and make a whole for the pressure to release is like touching a girl on a date, eventually no pressure will be left,

so now let me explain.... no touching and it seems like your uninterested in most cases, and too too too much touching is just creepy so we need to find a happy medium....

ok i say a little touching here and there just enoug to establish the posibility that your saying hey! i like you, but no more.......your realeasing all that seuxal tension if you do, you ever seen a girl or been on a date and wondered why isnt she touching me, why isnt or hasnt she even tryed to kiss me or give m a hint she wants to be kissed.....did it make you even more interested and curious does she like me does she not like me?..........

basically i dont touch in excess or kiss period on the first date to maintain her curiosity make her wonder does he like me, and im sure when we do kiss if it isnt in such a public place she will go a-wall on my ass lol.......do it right and they always do....


now where to go from your first date....well at start no more then 2 hang outs max and week and i guess if you must you can creep in a 3 day a week hang out.....really its a matter of what you do and how you act that determines whether or not she maintains her attractoin for you no mattter how much you hang out..... so if you act like a wimped bitch and you hang out 1 every 2 weeks it aint gonna go by well, but if you act like the ultimate alpha and hang 2 times a week and sometimes 3 she will be wanting you still..

so just keep the pace of what your doing you sound like your doing just fine, dont worry bout the kissing and excess touchign on the date, just do it when it feels right to you, dont worry bout what the pua's say bout kiss close and kino this and that......

think bout it do you really expect that kino when sarging a girl is gonna get her attraction for you up, and do you think that kissing on the first date is gonna make her want you more....

have you ever wanted to kiss a girl really really bad and then once you kiss her you feel completed but for some reason you urge to kiss is gone....maybe you can familirize with this.....


and bout calling, same as dates no more then 2 a week and if you must 3 a week, keep them short but fun

now let me ask you this if you liked a girl and she called the next day after a date would you say um why you calling.....i dont thnk you would

so if she likes you i dont think she will mind........and if you call and she is wondering why you called its not the phone call that broke her attraction for you that was broke long before you called her...



anyways comment me back on this post and let me know if you can understand bout why i dont believe you shoudl kiss on first dates, and whats the point of kino and anytign else i missed such as can you think of atime you wanted to kiss a girl only to kiss her and then not have the urge anymore?

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wow, mPUA, you really hit it on the nail there. Thanks a lot! i'd figured having fun would radiate confidence. i mean, it's all in good fun. i know i have to not even think how the date goes. like you said, be ALPHA.

another question, say this lunch date does go successful. when would it be necessary to progress to a dinner date? should i just stick with lunch dates and just "feel" it out or what?

im gonna try and nail the reasons for day hang out real quick, and i could be wrong cause im sure everyone's opinions vary...but here i go

reason for day game:
day game allows you to hang out with the girl your gaming, with minimal interference, and lets you too see each other for who you really are, night time game its just different its common and the request for the first time to hang out on a date at night is like socially saying im courting you, now there is always cases where this isnt true, but im sure if you asked a girl to hang out in the day she woudl be like o just going to have a little fun hang out, but if you ask her wanna go here at 9pm, its more a gesture she may see more as courting then the day time hang out.....so i guess day time game lets you fly in under the radar and work your magic..

so when can you go into dinner dates and night time hang outs with this girl....well if you want her as a girlfriend right away, just make sure your acting ALPHA.......

now if she is just a "friend" or someone your seeing for the moment and dont want to get to serious id wait till you feel you have set the ground for yeah i dont want to date and i dont mean tell her im saying once you feel the vibe and applied status of you too isnt goign to go into dating, you see what im saying once you think she thinks she isnt gonna be having you as a boyfriend and your not out to court her then night time is alright,

as for me i hang out with girls whenever i want i start off day time first date and after that its whatever i feel..

now what i said you dont have to follow you can go ngiht time hang out tonight if you want im only laying just some tips for you incase your not to sure on how to go about it.....

but if you know how to work the game, tease, have fun, and just build attraction naturally from experience meaning if your experienced at gaming then i dont see the problem with doing what the ALPHA wants...

in my opinion its not very alpha to be afraid of night time hang out cause you think it will ruin your chances......


any questions?

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