Decided to try my first SNL last night. I was sarging with Chkr from the Norwegian PUA forum. We try to do some street sarges before we hit the dancefloor at the club, but I realize that handling bigger sets (3-4 sets) especially with a wing is something that I have to work on. I’m sure that I’ll come though. Need to incorporate some good wing rules. Firstly at the club I feel that it’s going bad, try to approach several girls on the dance floor, but I feel that I might be too aggressive. I decide to go for a walk with my wing in order just to loosen up my head. When I’m back the dance floor I’m dancing with this originally Russian-Ukrain, but living in Germany girl. I decide that I’ll try for my first SNL. I’m dancing close to her and she seems interested, and I suggest that we’ll go for a walk. She agrees and we’re chatting. It’s really too loud to talk in the club.
When we’re walking and holding hands I try Mystery’s kiss close,but she’s like:
“I’ve only met you for 10 minutes, don’t want to go that fast” I say okay and I chat some more with her. We’re then going back to the dance floor. We’re dancing for a while and I kiss her on her forehead and cheeks etc. In most cases the girl would want to kiss me on the lips now, but she’s actually not that eager for doing that. After a while I lead her on another walk and keep saying that I’ve got some cool DVDs at home we should check out. At about 2.10 AM I say that we should go check out the DVDs, she says that’s it too early for that and I say ok.
I try to do some takeaways with going to the bathroom and some small takeaways with looking at my cell-phone. I’m also trying to move her around several times, to the club sofa, back on the dancefloor to the club sofa etc. I’m also moving her to the bar because I need some water. I ask if she wants anything, but she doesn’t whatever. I’m suggesting to go look for the DVDs clips again, but she wants to stay longer at the dance floor. At about 3AM when the club closes I try to get her at my apartment again, but she doesn’t want that. She says that she doesn’t trust me. I think she wants me she seemed really interested in the couch, but she just need some more comfort first. I’m following her home and when we’re walking I’m sharing some of my vulnerability and grounding stories. I probably should have followed her home though, I should have just taken her number and left. After about 10-12 minutes we’re outside her door and I say that I just need some water.
She says that she doesn’t have any water, but I just don’t get the hint haha. I’ve learned from it though, I should have left her before. I ask if she wants me to leave or something, but I just think she’s being too polite. After some more minutes she still won’t let me in and I decide to leave.
I send her a message with: “Hey special girl” she liked being called special (she had actually experienced a lot in her life).
HB:
U la la what a surprise!
did you get home safely last night ?
I didn’t reply, sometimes I just ignore messages from girls when I know that it’s on anyway.
She sent me this one at around midnight last night:
How disappointing that we won’t finish last nights game (with the questions) btw I was considering home as your dads place in oslo
Jtlyk (what the fuck does that mean lol)
I’m planning to suggest a day 2 in about 2 weeks and bring her back to my place then. She just needs some more comfort I think. Appreciate feedback on this FR .
CHAT