since i can't post this in "sticking points" cuz i'm not at 30 i thought I'd fiedl these here.

So i realize my biggest sticking point is APPROACHING ALOEN.

when i have someone there, i have balls and I'll approach wahtever i see. as soon as i'm alone, i shtudown and i just don't approach! any advice on that?

its not really about shutting down when your alone its more a case of lack of motivation.....when your with your friend you can go up to whoever you want without a problem for two reasons...1) your more or less saying to him watch this..showing off and 2) your friend is there as a source of motivation, and if you say your gonna approach and dont approach im sure he'll give you hell for awhile on it..so you say what the hell dont think bout it and go do it..
...when your alone you have lack of motivation, you let all this evil creep into your head bout what can go wrong, and im sure you always say to yourself what the hell would or am i going to say.....basically you psych yourself out before approaching and your friend is a security blanket if it doesnt go well your friend can have a laught and he is there to help but if your alone and it go's wrong you have nothign to fall back on exist the feelign that your gonna be publicly humiliated....

so a few things you can do when approaching and your friend isnt around...



1) I'd start from the basics....(take a 3 to 7 days for each step) the longer you get comfortable the easier it will be
a) hold eye contact and smilish smirk with females in public
b) hold eye contact and say hey!
c) hold eye contact and say hey! i need your opinion on somethign really quick, ask and opinion get her opinion say thank you and leave
d) ask a woman her opinion on something hold conversatoin for a few mins (2-4 mins)
e) ask a woman her opinion on somethign hold conversatoin a little while longer (4-6 mins)
f) ask a woman her opinion on somethign hold conversation 5 -7 mins and hten ask for number, in a covert kind of way...like
hey i gotta..but is there any way we can stay in touch?
is there any way we can continue this conversation cause i gotta go?


just keep in mind convo's of 5-7 mins long are a short time spand for girls to become attracted to your personality why i say personality is cause if there not attracted to your looks on approaching it may MAY take longer then 5 to 7 mins to get her attraction up for you on a sexual level thats why you hear about so many guys calling the girl up and they dont anwser they were just giving the number away to get rid of them, im not saying stick in there for a 30 min conversaotin im just saying....keep in mind your may have to take to a few girls before one responds positivly but maybe yoru looks our model like and all the girls will want you....


and number two

2) dont give a shit.....when you walk up to a girl of course care bout the conversaiton and listen and body language and all that but just go up and SPEAK YOUR MIND. without being a wuss omg your hot and can i buy you a drink and others along that line dont say those........ just have a normal conversatoin like she is a normal person and if she doesnt like your type of personality then dont give a shit what others think when she walks away, walk off and find good thigns to pull out of that conversation, no oen is gonna take public recognition no one will even notice you were talking to her.....so really go up to her and just do what you want dont be restricted by what you think she will find acceptable



so take baby steps to yoru approach anxitety and dont care about the outcome ...

but if you havent read self-hynosis you should it can work wonders it be really easy for you too...

since you have no problem approachign with your friend aroudn and you have trouble without you friend....

easy before approaching shut your eyes, meditate for a min or two relax whatever else and just imagine your friend is right there with you forcing you to go talk to that girl you want ot talk too....imaigine in your mind he has just bet you $5 dollars you woudlnt go up and talk to them

you get what im saying....close your eyes imagine he is there open them back up, get confident and go do your thing....

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