| When I initially started sarging, I thought I had the whole cocky/funny thing down within the first few times I went out. However, one thing to remember, that I see a lot of people on here either forgetting or not fully understanding, and something I didn't get for a while is:
A NEG IS NOT AN INSULT.
If you believe that to neg is to say, "well that's kinda lame" or something like that, even with a grin and in a playful way, then you don't know what a neg is.
A neg is a comment that is said as if it could be taken as a compliment, yet also could be taken as an insult. It is supposed to get a girl to start wondering whether or not you are interested in her, and to get her to qualify herself to you. A good neg is something like, "hey I like that scarf - it's something my niece would wear." As you can see, it's a compliment, but at the same time you're also subtly implying that her fashion sense is like a much younger person's, something a guy who was actually hitting on her wouldn't want to imply. This will act as a false disqualifier for you, and it will cause her to be thinking "hey wait a minute did he just make fun of me? Does he like me? I have to show him my fashion is cool...etc."
Negs are better than straight up insults, because they create tension within her, and you can always maintain that you are the good guy and you are simply being polite and having a normal conversation with a random person. There is never the possibility that a girl can even pretend to take a seeming compliment the wrong way and use it as an excuse to ignore or be rude to you. They are very useful during the opening few minutes of conversation, or as an opener, (e.g. just add "so where'd you get it?" to the end of my example above for a perfectly good one), and their use is more subtle than a straight insult because a straight insult is more obviously just "flirting", whereas a good neg imparts the fact that you have a strong frame, you are bringing value, and allows you to "sneak in under the radar" more easily.
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