The first thing i wanna say is that i'm no AFC (Only in this realitionship)
I'm a good danish pua, i have asked about this in the danish pua forum but they are just to slow to reply so i will ask here

Hi guys and girls, and i really gonna say thanks for helping me out

Sorry for the bad english.

My girl dumped me 4 days ago ,I was really a bad boyfriend, if she did something wrong i could just go creazy
and make her cry..

She took on vaction for 3 weeks, and she broke up when she came home because she had though about the things,
and could not handle it anymore, she had just thinking about all the bad things.

When she dumped me we talked for 2 hours, and i tried to ask: can i get another chance and all that stuff but
No.

She just want to be friends, and dont wanna rune our friendship.

She told me she "Could not handle it anymore", i asked her do you still love me (She said yes, but it was hard for her to say)

When i came home, i text masseged her all the time, and to a point she didn't answer me anymore. (Afc again woot )

I had not contact her in 3 days, but today she contactet me with some very BAD news

This is a conversation from msn messenger.

I will try to transelate this as good i can in english.

´xxxx. siger:
Hi
Steffan, (12) siger:
hi
xxxx. siger:
What are you doing?
Steffan, (12) siger:
Just seeing tv, what about you.
xxxx. siger:
I have just comed home from the hospital
Steffan, (12) siger:
what have you been doing there?
xxxx. siger:
A car drived into me last night.
Steffan, (12) siger:
* * * * what happend.
xxxx. siger:
I broke 3 teeth, and i got 15 sting in my head.
Steffan, (12) siger:
ohhhh
xxxx. siger:
And i have lost alot of blood.
xxxx. siger:
:/..
Steffan, (12) siger:
, I was always afraid for this should happen, are you still felling bad.

(she always bicycle like creazy, like she own the routh)

xxxx. siger:
yes i have a big hea* * * * , and my teeth hurt.
Steffan, (12) siger:
ohh * * * * , tell me if you need someone to talk to
xxxx. siger:
I will, and thanks.
xxxx. siger:
I will get new teeth tomorrow.
Steffan, (12) siger:
Okay thats some * * * * , but they will be just as fine as your old one.
xxxx siger:
yes they told me that.
Steffan, (12) siger:
* * * * that sucks, where did i happend.
xxxx. siger:
There where "niels" used to live
Steffan, (12) siger:
okay, they drive like creazy there.
xxxx. siger:
Yes and the car just, drived away, and i blacked out, so the police and abulance came, then i had lost alot of blood.
xxxx. siger:
They said i was lucky.
Steffan, (12) siger:
Yes something worse coukd had happend.
xxxx. siger:
Yes they also told me that, i could had lost a leg or something
Steffan, (12) siger:
yes, what clock did you come out from the hospital?
xxxx. siger:
ago
xxxx. siger:
45 min ago
Steffan, (12) siger:
okay, so you will just sit and chill now.
xxxx. siger:
Yes i will try to get something to eat, but i now that will be hard.. so see you ..
Steffan, (12) siger:
yes see you

20 min later
Steffan, (12) siger:
did you get something to eat?
xxxx. siger:
not much
Steffan, (12) siger:
okay that sucks
xxxx. siger:
yeees ;s
Steffan, (12) siger:
is there no one there have visited you at the hospital today.
xxxx. siger:
yes, sebastian, esben, simon, nikolaj, mike, cille, (some friends)

(Why did she not call me so i could visit her :S?)
Steffan, (12) siger:
okay
xxxx. siger:
how is it else going
Steffan, (12) siger:
fine, calm and calmly, what about you
xxxx. siger:
fine

What should my next step be, and can i use this sitioation to my advantage?

Thanks,

That's kinda sick that you want to use it as leverage. I would hazard a guess at this being the reason she did not contact you.

Sorry to hear that - you obviously do still care about her.

From the way you've told the story, it's no surprise that she's broken up with you and doesn't want to give you another chance. You can't give second chances after precident has been set.

My advice is easier said than done and I expect it to be ignored as it's not what you want to hear. Leave her alone. Break contact for a while - let's say 4-6 weeks. All contact. Try to do your own thing, and improve what you need to improve (temper?). Take a look at your feelings at that time. If you feel much the same way, you can re-approach her and explain exactly what's been going through your head.

Taking a mile if she gives you an inch, smothering her, trying to force your feelings on her, will only make her resent you and are not going to help you rectify the relationship. Instead, how about you go away and work on actually being better at relationships.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

You can't use this kind of trauma to your advantage, unless your like.. very skilled at brainswashing things.

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Style: Who do you think lies more...
DeAngelo: What's up fool?
AFC: Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

its easy to say, we all live in the "game" sometime but when this have happend to your x girlfriend and she didnt call something is very wrong, and will get (try) to get a face to face covercation tomorrow and re approache, i will keep you guys updated.

i'm drunk right now:), the problem is she already now all about the game, and my technicks, but what the hell why not try

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yeah the game helped me...

Pulled and actor, i dont say who:D

Pulled two models

The game gave me my relationship, and destroyed it again. (REMEMBER there is a differents between the game and a real life)

Perhaps you should visit her in the hospital, if you still care about her. She thinks you're a bad bf, YOU think you're a bad BF, that tells you something. So for her fucking sake, not for the sake of the game, you should visit her in the hospital. (And no, don't be all "I-want-you-back" and all while you're there)
...just IMHO